Ugh. UGH. She’s awful and gross and transphobic and just... ugh. She got into a ridiculous and embarrasing Instagram and Twitter spat with people who were offended at her nasty transphobic comments and showed her true colors. G-ross.  

I think you should break up with him. You deserve space to work on your own stuff without worrying about how you’re not giving enough, and he deserves someone who is ready. And that is a perfectly legitimate way to say it, and has the benefit of being true.