I, too, am always curious to hear more from the transmen perspective! I remember seeing an article once that was all interviews with transmen and people were commenting on it, complaining that “Once again it’s all about the MALE point of view,” which seemed grossly misguided? Considering that the vast majority of…

What I’m really curious about is how the trans identity fits into a theoretical future that is free of gender constructs. If we were able to get to a point in society where we are truly freed from the idea of “man” and “woman,” would people still identify as trans? I wish there were a workshop for cis people to ask…

Right? I certainly don’t always identify as a woman, but I also don’t consider myself trans. Gender is a stupid construct and I hope we get to a place in society where it becomes irrelevant.

That was how I initially read the comment but I do think the OP was trying to ask “How is this supposed to work?” rather than “How is this bad?”

I think it’s supposed to get the women to let their guards down- if the dudes are asking for relationship advice, they can’t be trying to pick someone up, right? It gets the women talking, and once the conversation is going, then they can move on to more overt flirtation. It’s not a great method but I can see it…

No, I haven’t always handled my situations properly. Sometimes I’ve gone along for the ride completely, sometimes I’ve bailed after going along with it for a while, and sometimes I’ve stopped it before anything happened. Because each situation has had different factors influencing what I felt safe and capable of doing…

It’s really not that hard! Here, I’ll try and I haven’t even finished my first coffee:

Thank you! This is exactly what we should be doing.

“I kind of want to come up with a little bit of a code of conduct...”

Seems like an appropriate time to post this:

Because of Angelina, I came out as a lesbian in high school. Turns out I’m mostly straight; it was just the power of Angelina Jolie.

I’m struggling a lot with these issues in my professional and dating life. For a while I thought I was some kind of sociopath-magnet because I was noticing these horrible tendencies in every man I dated, but now I’m realizing it’s just built into the design! That men are conditioned to be aggressors and women are…

This little anecdote here is a million times more interesting than this entire long-winded essay.

It’s definitely inconvenient and I’m not into the idea of cutting off access to bathrooms or water for homeless people because that’s pretty inhumane. However, as someone who has had to clean up blood on more than one occasion after a junkie (NOT trying to equate homelessness to drug use, just two separate parts of…

I used to work in coffee and this is infuriating because if you fill a 16 ounce cup with creamer from the station, the employee has to come out and refill the creamer about every 5 minutes. It’s meant for customers to take an ounce or two, but one asshole who wants to game the system for 75 cents drains 3/4 of the…

I feel it’s very important to add that if you’re sitting at a bar, occupying a bar stool, however- this is very fucking bad!

Nah. I live in Chicago and the same thing happened here. The problem with leaving downtown covered in trash is it gives all the naysayers a reason to hate the women’s march and the movement itself, by extension. No visual is quite as perfect for Trump and his ilk than streets covered in trash after the women blow…

And, just to get a head start on the trolls, I want to emphasize with regard to the fingers down the throat thing and your head-holding comment-there are those of out there who are into both of those things sexually, and still expect you to wait for clear, enthusiastic consent before you start any of it!

I’m confused because I’ve definitely seen small print about gate-checked baggage fees, and it’s always more money than checking before TSA. I was under the impression that they do it for free if they run out of space due to their own error, but if you pay for a budget ticket these days it only allows you one personal…

That, for me, was the turning point. That logic is so faulty and Woody Allen is too smart to actually believe it. If he were dumber I might buy that he actually thought that way, but the man has spent decades in analysis and writing about all the ways that people delude themselves- there’s no way he thinks that line…