Americans...y’all are so freaked out my bodies.

yeah it’s horrible, but also understandable when you are surrounded by a culture that is so horrendous to anything not-white.

LOL she is gorgeous! I have so much envy for Samba dancers....it’s SO hard!

Absolutely restricting the term “biracial” plays right back into divide and conquer. When we start creating all these sub-groups, you start thinking your group’s concerns are more valid than the next. It’s an attempt to keep people focused on makes them different from others, instead of what we share.

This is another prong in the conservative attack where the aim is control (not the sanctity of life) - if you can keep women saddled with babies, you can more easily control them.

This is the history of humans: religions forcing people to act in certain ways.

Also, my ex-husband grew up in a very multi-cultural country that described itself as a rainbow culture...but it was clear that you were supposed to remain married within your own colour. DO NOT MIX. However, his father is of Indian descent (but who knows when the ancestors originally came from India), and his mother…

I think that line DID get prescriptive, as in the only people we can actually designate as bi-racial must have two parents that come from different racial backgrounds. But then that is where the cultural wrench gets thrown into the mix, where you could have one bi-racial parent and one black parent, but both of them…

You didn’t tweetbook and snapface and tumblchat the instaspace vinetube video on the mygram for all your pinfriendsterest followers?

You’re searching for hard and fast rules on this, when the reality is that there are none...as so many other commentators have pointed out: It’s up to each person with a mixed ancestry (regardless of temporal proximity - ie parents vs great-grandparents) to determine for themselves how they want to identify.

But but but...

Absolutely they worry, as they should.

Yeah it’s stupid. I’m very forceful in my opinions, which has alienated some people after a bunch of arguing. Now I am trying a new tactic where I just look bored and change the subject, so they will understand how deeply uninteresting I find their opinion. Both tactics don’t win me any friends, but then again I’d…

Luckily, I don’t know what that would feel like, since I don’t have family like that and if I did I would never invite them. However, I know I am incredibly lucky in that regards and it is not easily dealt with. In your position, I would probably do the same if it meant just enjoying my day drama-free!

The best summation on here yet!

If it’s your wedding, i believe you are allowed to do whatever you want. If you pay for it...

YES! My friend wore a scarlet satin gown to her wedding (it was lustrous, AND she was 7 months pregnant!) and it looked divine with her cream skin and dark brown hair. It was also early December, so it fit really nicely in with the holidays.

You know what is an antidote to having people express opinions about whether or not you spend too much money on your wedding?

My sister-in-law bought her’s secondhand for $100...plus the cost of alterations and dry cleaning = $200. I mean, it’s only ever been worn once before!