I agree with you, and what is perplexing me about this (regardless of my politics), is the extremely low margin of error people on here are giving to men who are learning and trying to change.

I’ve done pretty pretty much everything, but am never around enough I guess! 6 years +. Periodically I’ll get black and my hopes and dreams fulfilled and then, next post... Boooooo

I understand where you are coming from - I really do - I cringe at bad spelling and when I was online dating couldn’t bring myself to take the text speakers seriously. I hate bad kerning and Comic Sans and agree that stupidity is winning. But I also try to overcome that, in case there’s a person who is struggling at…

I tried this a few years ago and it really works. I keep forgetting to change it, but you’ll be amazed how boring Instagram is in black & white ;-)

Make your phone greyscale. It totally works.

This is what I was trying to say.

How about kids with dyslexia (my son)? Or ADHD? Or other learning disabilities? I didn’t realise people could pay their way out of those... let me get out my wallet so we can fix it!

I think it matters as well, but like anything it is about the context.

I had to really look at myself and my asshole reaction to poor spelling and grammar when my son was diagnosed with dyslexia.

This is just so you know that there are people nodding along. I hesitated to comment because I know I will get the figurative red paint... but I think most actual feminists who want change rather than just internet outrage would agree with you.

My biggest issue with all of this is how unforgiving we are of men like Franken (ONLY those like Franken who are in a grey area, not the predators) caught up in this, who, by and large are decent people, but are part of a patriarchal system that tell them every day that stuff like this is ok.

For sure, in this instance though I think there’s a grey area. I mean, he was in an environment where it was “okay”, under the guise of “comedy”, and he had framed it that way in his own mind. On reflection, only once she came forward, he agreed it was in retrospect definitely not okay and he apologised.

I agree, and a fundamental part of feminism, that we forget, is criticism of patriarchy, that hurts EVERYONE. Until we start reframing men as victims of patriarchy as well (of course, to a much, MUCH lesser degree than women! That goes without saying), we cannot actually repair this.

I don’t know, but there are a lot of imperfect ones who have woken up recently. I have hope.

On one level I agree with you and I don’t want to be called an apologist for pointing this out, nor get into a painful back & forth...

I don’t know if I have missed it, but Ricky Gervais has been very quiet about all of this. Has he?

“I could care less what you think” is up there in the stabby department.

I wish I could get in the ear of Twitter C’Levels, because they really could fix so much of this with micropayments to @/DM certain accounts (possibly user-opt-in, but definitely Verified accounts). Many people would think twice if they have to pay 50c (not all, but a lot), and linking to a Credit Card verifies…

Same here. Mine had just signed up, was naive about all the dating stuff and he had spent 5 years “doing the emotional work” after his divorce (as had I, but I was on there for the LOLs mostly).

I met my husband on one of the shittiest dating sites there are - full of man-children and cheaters and Fedoras.