Oh please... If you genuinely were you’d know better than to treat a continent of 54 countries and hundreds of cultures as a monolith, a big undifferentiated mass you seem to think is Africa and Africans. And sorry buddy, but despite what your feelings South Africans of all colours are Africans so shove your…

Don’t forget Europeans in Canada, the USA and across South America. Not to mention China, India and Indonesia... And the British in Ireland for that matter. Plenty of white fuckery to go around.

I saw that. It was incredibly obvious. The stink of jealousy... The thing is, those white comedians don’t have broad appeal because a) their mindset is very “middle class white South African” and especially b) they are not very funny.

Nope. I was a kid when apartheid ended so I didn’t do anything. I just wanted to point out a historical fact - thousands of white Saffers were involved in the struggle, many of whom were jailed and killed. Plus, during the 1992 referendum just under 2/3rds of white South Africans voted in favour of ending apartheid.

We’re not all that bad you know... Plenty of us fought against the apartheid state.

We’re working on it... By far the majority of Irish people want the law changed and it is definitely going to be an election issue. 2015 has been so progressive in Ireland in some ways. Not only did people vote overwhelmingly in favour of marriage equality, a new law allows trans people to self-declare their gender…

I’m an other as well. I’ll do it, if I have to. But I would rather not.

Dublin Airport is fine. It’s small. Easy to find your way around. The immigration folks are friendly. No train to the city. That sucks. Plenty of taxis though (about €25 to the city centre). You can get the Air Coach or Airport Express (€6). Or if you want to save money, get the No 16 Dublin Bus (under €3). I live in…

That’s terrifying but there could be a reason for it, a nice scientific one - infrasound from the pylons. Infrasound can induce feelings of dread and even smeared vision which makes it look like you’ve seen a ghost.

The more I read about women’s experiences of casual sex, the happier I am I don’t do it. Not that all the sex I have had has been in “serious” relationships, but I never do the drunken hook-up thing. I have begun to realise I am either a unicorn or incredibly lucky, because 99% of the men I have been with have wanted…

Luckily enough, I have one of those!

I was a late bloomer too :-) In my experience a lot of guys will step up if you make them... Personally I don’t want someone I have to reform or manipulate. Ideally you want to find someone like your first (or my current) boyfriend. But in the meantime, not giving until receiving works surprisingly well. Funny thing…

I hate the message that women should expect or put up with substandard sex. Nope! If I’m not into it, it’s not happening. And I particularly hate that this is a message that is often pushed by women.

My rule is never to give a blowjob to anyone who hasn’t gone down on me first. This is manipulative AF, but I don’t care because it works. A study by Stanford found that oral sex, even in established relationships, can be as high as four to one in a man’s favour. There are plenty of men who expect oral sex as a…

On a first time hook-up, a woman is one-third as likely to orgasm as her male partner. There are a number of possible reasons for this: nerves, alcohol, and unfamiliarity all play a part. But research conducted by Stanford University found an even more compelling reason, which they politely described as “lack of…

You’re worrying about nothing... I had an OKC account at 38, and I got plenty of messages from age appropriate men. I’m nice enough looking but no supermodel. And my profile included the fact that I talk a lot :-) 27 is nothing. You’re still a whippersnapper. Besides which, if your age is an issue for some men, that’s…

Sure, of course there are similarities across Europe because of the influences of the Greeks, Romans and Judeo-Christianity. We have a shared currency and interlocked economies indeed, and although a monetary system is a culture artefact, I’m not sure this qualifies as “culture.” But I think that’s maybe just that we…

There is no European culture as such... other than Eurovision and a fondness for beer across most of the continent.

THANK YOU! The amount of ignorance in Europe and the US about Africa is staggering. Like, I am not expecting anyone to know the history of various African countries but c’mon, everyone should at least know it is a continent. It’s right there on the map, all huge and stuff....

Thanks. I’m not relaxed in public loos but thankfully he didn’t actually manage to get a hand on me. Longish story... But if anything the experience has only made me more sympathetic to trans people and this bathroom nonsense. Expecting a trans woman to use the men’s is a recipe for disaster. Not that cis women are…