I think where this line of thinking goes wrong is that it presumes that the point of the author’s argument is simply to moralistically judge this guy as an individual when the point is really to point out how the language of consent and choice misses the kinds of subtle coercion that can lead to the performance of…

You’re right. Men totally need to learn to overcome that socialized pattern of thought. I’ve been working on that myself over the years. The trouble is that a person often doesn’t actively work on overcoming their problematic socialization until a bad experience pushes that way or as part of the maturation process…