I want to knit a rug out of Yoko so that Kat Dennings can wipe her feet on it.

We never had a “reveal.” When I told my mom some kid at school said Santa wasn’t real, she gave me the “Yes, Virginia,” talk in that “if you do something nice for someone because you’re feeling the Christmas spirit- that’s what Santa is. Your Dad and I are Santa for you and your brother, but you are Santa for us when…

whao - slow the eff down-

Welcome to El Niño! As a Californian, all I gotta say is, we’d better get that damn rain.

Your analogy is terrible. As someone who has experienced both being pressured to buy something I don’t need and being physically forced and verbally cajoled and socially pressured into a sex acts that I didn’t want to engage in, I am telling you that the physical, social, and emotional dynamics of walking into a store…

Not all teenagers pressure partners to do things they don’t want to do. Stop trying to normalize asocial behavior.

Totally different industry/situation, but the way Conor Oberst responded to (an ultimately false, I think?) allegation was pretty believable. I remember being really conflicted at the time, because my impulse is always, always to support the survivor. Bringing up the ‘jealous ex’ trope or anything to attempt to…

That’s exactly what my rapist did. I tried to push him off me, but stopped struggling when he said he liked it. Months later, I told him he had raped me, and he told me he “didn’t see it that way.” He still has no idea why I’m so angry, or why I was so relieved when he finally said he wanted to divorce. He expected me…

I genuinely believe a lot of men/boys put “what I do” and rape into two different categories. Their idea of rape is so narrow that it’s easy to avoid wearing a ski mask and jumping a stranger in a dark alley. So whatever they’re doing isn’t rape! Add that to the whole cultural mix where we treat women’s bodies as…

The person, who identifies himself as male, also says that while Deen is an “asshole,” he’s not a rapist...

Every douchebag I have dated has kept their socks on during sex. Last one took it to a whole new level. He kept his socks on, his tshirt and had his head turned watching Pokemon on Netflix (he was 26). I felt like I was in some horrible nightmare.

It took me months and months and months,” she told The Guardian, “over a year of months to be able to be able to call it what it was – which was rape.”

You know how terrible, dismissive and accusatory cops tend to be when “regular” women report rape, to the point that some women describe the process as nearly as traumatizing at the rape itself? That’s magnified exponentially when the victim is any kind of sex worker. And even more so when it’s a past event, and…

She said she would try to bring it up with him: what happened, what had he been thinking? He would tell her, she said, that her tears were “abusive”.

Or you’ve internalized the messages that only men in alleys will rape you or that only sober, non-sexualized women get raped. Or you hear in your head the bullshit ways people like men on this site tear down assault survivors stories “you just had hurt feelings”, “you asked for it by being kinky”, “whores like you…

Thank you for sharing your painful story. I don’t think that’s true, though. I *do* believe, even as a woman who has been raped and sexually assaulted by men, that there are good men out there who don’t have these violent desires, whether outright or subconsciously. There are a lot of awful, disgusting pigs out there,…

Know a lot about trauma, and how it effects each individual person? Read some rape stories, and you'll find a common thread is the denial that it was rape. That the person they're in a relationship with would never do that. They tell themselves it was everything but rape, until they can't anymore. This is not uncommon.

A few months ago, there was a really strong and strange (to me) critique of the movie Hot Girls Wanted for shining a light on an aspect of the porn industry that is very woman un-friendly. The article read to me like it was accusing the documentary producers of taking a hardline, anti-porn stand, which I don’t think…

I think the brain damaged ones in this scenario would be Charlie Sheen and Brett Rossi. Who doesn’t disclose their HIV status? Who decides, AFTER the big reveal, to have lots of unprotected sex and make a baby?

It really was shocking, wasn’t it, the response to Christy Mack? Even after she published those photos of her face, completely beaten to shit. I could not BELIEVE that people were still arguing she was “asking for it” when she had a broken jaw and missing teeth.