Redefining my first sexual relationship as not only abusive, but also as traumatic was really useful for me because it let me accept that bad things were done to me and it wasn’t (just) that I was crazy. Before I acknowledged any of that, I was becoming ever more self destructive because I couldn’t figure out why I…

The frozen Japanese fried rice is my favorite lunch staple. The aburaage and hijiki make it so delightfully savory. Its great as is, or with an egg or other protein mixed in.

I get that its important to know what’s going on in a child’s life, but I’m really glad my parents didn’t/couldn’t access my internet presence when I was a teen. Sometimes, kids need the freedom to write bad poetry or take stupid pictures for only an audience of people they really trust. This is especially true for…

Its just so easy to, y’know, not date someone who smokes weed if you don’t like it. I know firsthand since I won’t date anyone who smokes weed because it reminds me of my abusive ex who was more abusive when he was smoking. But there are so many people in the world who don’t smoke weed and I’m not sure why this guy is…

Oh, yeah, I forgot about snakes. We don’t have those in the city. Evertrhing else lives right in the thick of things though. I often see red tailed hawks from my balcony though.

This has been enlightening because I’m honestly shocked that there aren’t predators in Australia eating cats. I live in the American southwest and my cats are indoors only with a covered outdoor playpen because coyotes, owls, hawks, bobcats, etc take down domesticated cats so quickly and easily. I almost never see…

I would have LOVED these as a kid. My hometown (pop. ~130,000) had one library that was a 20 minite drive away from my house and no public transportation connecting the two. I was a voracious reader (still am, but now its dense grad stuff) and would often get through more than one book a day. Being able to walk down…

Man, this makes me wonder where on earth you’re teaching. I’m in grad school and there is no concept that classes and campus are a safe space. There’s pretty much just the LGBTQ students association and the Indigenous students association.

I mean, that definitely sounds like 95% of the French people I’ve ever met...

I’ve held back on getting the tattoos I’ve wanted for years because every shop I’ve ever been to has been a very masculine, elitist space. I just kept getting piercings at my local piercings only shop because they’re so nice.

If violent rapes and assaults are the only ones that count, that leaves an entire range of things that are just as traumatic without any language with which to process them. Attitudes like this are why I still find myself doing complicated wordplay because is being coerced through threats of violence and public…

I’ve been feeling a similar way. I, too, had a boyfriend as a teenager who pushed and pushed my boundaries until he finally coerced me into giving him oral sex. After, I felt humiliated and traumatized but that was attributed to how “crazy” I am. The next week he raped me, setting off a year of sexual and emotional…

I mean, I guess I can’t relate. I mean, I’ve met people who ditched their own kids because their new partner made an ultimatum, so I can only assume this is similar. I guess if she decides to dump her dogs, then they deserve each other? It seems really unhealthy to me, but perhaps I just can’t understand wanting to…

I mean, I’m sympathetic to the fact that he was traumatized, but why did he ever pursue a relationship with someone who has dogs if he can’t stand to be around them? Its very odd to say “this is my dealbreaker, I can’t live with this” and then decide to marry the person.

I definitely don’t believe that. My department is full of French women and they all dress like any average American woman with indiscriminate style. They’re also super racist though, so who knows

I mean, I hope that’s true for the most part. But I went 2 years ago and paid $15 with a smile and got a glare and a huff in return. It only solidified my overall impression that The Met isn’t intended for common people.

I visit my parents for Christmas and its basically this. We wear pajamas all day and don’t have a formal meal. I alternate between reading, napping, watching movies, and eating tasty food. Idk, it may be different for people who have siblings.

I’ve always found it funny that there are so many trendy start ups that like to tout their ~diversity~ and ~uniqueness~ but absolutely can’t stand the thought of clothing plus size women. I’m 5'6 and a size 16/18 and its always baffling to me how hard it is to find clothes, especially from ethical manufacturers. I’m…

Hmm, weird. Maybe New Mexico is just odd. We are kind of an outlier, as the only one of the poorest states that votes democrat. Its true that I didn’t get any sex ed though, since it wasn’t taught or required at my schools and there were a ton of teen pregnancies, though I’d attribute that to lack of resources.

I live in a very Catholic blue state and I think you might be able to attribute at least some of that to ethnicity, because I also live in one of the most Hispanic states. Most of the Catholics I’ve known don’t like abortion, but they tend to think its not really their business to meddle in someone else’s life. Very…