I’m not sure about you, but as a woman, I am penalized for negotiating. That’s critical nuance you seem to be ignoring.

I agree it may bring salaries down, but it’s NOT just that women don’t negotiate as well or confidently- it’s that when they negotiate they are either denied or have the offer rescinded- so it’s a problem that will not be solved by training women to be better negotiators.

Thank you for the link. Ms. Smart is very right on, especially in this example, explaining how the concept of “sexual purity” factored into her decision not to run-

I’ve been identifying as 75 for many years now. Ever since I wasn’t too happy identifying as 30 and looking 22.

Awwww, that second story is really sweet! I’m glad you could resurrect yourself into your now-husband’s life. :D

AGREED, five minutes?! What? Sometimes I lose my phone in my own house for hours at a time.

I am REALLY struggling with this right now. I have a friend, formerly close, that I simply don’t want to be friends with anymore. We have fundamental personality differences that I do not think are resolvable. She clearly wants to work things out and continue the friendship. I feel like I am done. And I have NO idea…

I’ve ghosted so many casual hook ups that I’ve had missing persons reports filed on me.

I’m too confrontational by nature to do ghosting. I can see the need in certain situations—namely, hostile/volatile ones, where actual face-to-face interaction has the potential to turn violent—but in practice, I hate it. I’ve been ghosted before with no cause/reason (as in, two days prior, we were pleasantly…

Exactly. The narrator’s not angry or blaming her. This isn’t one of those Swift tracks; it’s closer to being the Smiths, thematically, the same kind of depressed romantic hopelessness.

Is it? The narrator of that song does feel unreliable and sounds to me like she knows her man is actually terrible and likes Jolene without Jolene even having to try, Jolene just happens to be beautiful and effortless. The narrator’s desperation feels like she just doesn’t want to lose him because she can’t function…

Jolene - great song. Have you heard the “slowed” version? Haunting.

That is why I LOVE Jolene. That song touches on some real talk topics nobody ever addresses. Relationships happening and continuing for reasons other than true love 97% of the time.*

Two things can be true:

I work pretty closely with a dude at work and I like to think of him as my ‘office buddy cop’. Like we have really opposing personality traits but we’d team up to bust this case WIDE OPEN. I’d be the uptight one who always filled in their paperwork and he’d be the maverick who doesn’t play by the rules but dammit, he…

rihanna, miley, ciara in that video you told me about (also just always), ruby rose, the hot black guy in the glasses I saw on the train yesterday, daniel craig, brad pitt in Fight Club, idris elba, jon hamm, anyone w a strong chin jawline, really. rick yune, harrison ford, the entire German National soccer team, tim…

I went through a similar experience- the irrational rules, the golden child/stepchild dichotomy, the need for total control over employees. We had a “no laughing rule” implemented for a colleague and me, because “we couldn’t be working if we were also laughing,” never mind that our productivity was higher than anyone…

The Life Aquatic had Seu Jorge, Waris Ahluwalia (who is FINE AS FUCK and in several Wes Anderson movies), and dozens of other non-white actors.

It's pretty grotesque to brag about the large quantity of greasy foods you've just consumed and then claim that not being overweight makes you a paragon of virtue and moderation. Half a box of doughnuts in one sitting sure sounds like gorging to me.