I didn't think that I had, until I looked back over what I read and - yeah. I'm sorry for that, I read it into a few comments that you made without thinking. I didn't mean to talk down (transplain?) like that.

Transition absolutely smacked me in the face with inequality. Since before transition I considered myself deeply invested in most feminist ideals, but my experiences during and after transition cemented that in a way that I find hard to convey. I believe that equality has yet to be reached, that patriarchy has…

I would like to try to offer another explanation for what you've seen. I can't say whether or not it applies in the case of your friends, but it certainly did in my life and in the lives of most other women in transition I've known.

And, once again, trans women are placed in an impossible double bind. If we don't comment on changes that we encounter socially during transition, we're seen as either continuing to exert male privilege (and therefore avoiding as much fallout from patriarchy), or buying into patriarchy and letting the marginalization…

One thing I firmly believe is that if anyone's down there that close...they should be goddamn grateful for the opportunity! You want to critique my lady biscuit, get the heck out of my life!

Yes, that's right. I'd be considered a "trans woman", though at the time of my transition "transsexual" was still the term in vogue. Though...I know you're trying to reference primary sexual characteristics when you say "born a man", but that just feels weird to me. I can't imagine being a man, I never have been -…

A statistic I heard once was that the anus itself has something like the second or third highest density of nerve endings in women - after the clitoris and parts of the mouth. In men, it's first or second - there are actually more nerve endings per unit area there than on the glans penis. I don't think that there…

Personally, I never had much trouble understanding myself - I knew I was a girl from just about my earliest memory. What was difficult to understand, for a while, was why the world seemed to insist that what I had between my legs dictated that I couldn't be one - when plainly that was absolutely wrong! I spent most…

I'd like to second this.

I think the best we have for terms that you may be looking for are "androphilic" and "gynephilic". While their use is a little uncommon, I've never had anyone have a problem with understanding them after a brief moment of thought. I use them fairly often.

I have a reason for not circing that doesn't come up often, I have to admit - what happens if you're not quite right about the gender of the baby you are holding in your arms. What if, well, *she* - is actually trans?