Painfully true. I'm in medical school, and was discussing my fourth year course plan with my adviser earlier this week. I planned to do an away rotation for a month in Fall, followed by a rotation block off to go to interviews and visit my family. My adviser said, I quote, "Oh no, but that won't be okay with your…

Wait, with your words. What I said was that HUGO is making this statement. See, what Hugo did is he read this research but thought that it put all of the onus on the women to improve the situation somehow. He compares it to telling women to dress modestly to avoid street harassment and to not drink to avoid rape - as…

You do realize that prior to a few decades ago, women were seen as an accessory to a man's life, right?

I was a wreck before I got married, but I was also in love and kinda naive. I think if I hadn't been those things, I would have remained single.

I'm in a relationship, but not married. I own a townhouse, in which my boyfriend and I live. His company is asking him to move to a city seven hours away. He doesn't really want to go, but is tempted by the money.

I seem to have to repeat myself a lot, so copy and paste: "I'm saying the number of barriers and the amount of pressure to put women in their place makes it less of a choice and more of a loaded issue."

Everyone needs to have a paying job of some kind in this country. Don't believe me? Calculate your survivor benefits as a life-long stay at home mother from Social Security. Staying at home while you're young means living in poverty when you're old.

I like how you managed to annoy people on Jezebel more than a Nice Guy, that is no easy feat. I think the message was clear, you work hard on making yourself exceptional, so you don´t want somebody that by the same standards is underachieving. Where I think your argument derailed a bit was that despite talking a lot…

Agreed! Short of a handful of overacheiver valedictorian types, I would say that 85% -90% of my women friends prioritized relationships in their youth (myself included), often moving to other states, turning down job options and making risky choices. No one is realistically "waiting it out". Childbearing is the only…

I agree too many women still find the bad boy hot. Not so different than too many men finding submissive, pretty women hot.

I'm not seeking anyone, and I wish "men" would stop assuming I am.

"The reason women (finally!) are giving up on men is because being married to one is a fucking JOB."

i love how "nice guys" think niceness is such a positive attribute that it deserves to be mentioned on its own. its the bare minimum of human decency at most. quit telling me how nice you are. i dont care. every fucking person in the world thinks theyre nice, regardless of how they really act. try to aim a little…

Fascinating.

Men have an obligation to be better "boyfriend material", and this obligation is somehow comparable to their obligation to not rape anybody.

I agree. As long as it's not one-sided I don't see why we should all prioritise being cogs in the capitalist machine above our loved-ones. Some people have a vocation about which they are passionate but for countless millions a career is just a way of keeping a roof over their heads and food in the fridge.

Hugo feels men should be more considerate and fairminded. I might have also seen something in there about wishing water were less wet.

I think the point is that even though women are increasingly getting the message to be independent, it's still considered odd for a woman to make decisions independent of a man - at least once they have him. I've been seeing the pattern you describe unfold with a lot of my friends (we're in our mid-20s). It's shocking…

Agreed. We have not reach the point yet where telling women to be LESS independent is even a concern. Many women still set aside their own life for guys.

I don't really understand the point of this, because a lot (I'd even maybe say most) of the late teens/early 20's women I know DO "make romance a priority in their lives," even at the point of sacrificing their education and career prospects. I have never heard a man say that, oh, he got into a top 10 university, but…