I used to. If you don't wear heels often, go with kitten heels. They are easier to wear if you're on your feet all day. You can always toss a higher pair on every now and again to mix things up.

Trust your gut. If it says it dislikes him in any way, don't do it. Maybe as a fling? But for real, the best thing I have learned is, if it doesn't feel right, don't do it.

As a guy, in general, my thoughts are; You're 21, who cares, show you're interested and see what happens. If he's flirting with others in front of you, dump him. Don't take any relationship too seriously now. Try some on and learn from them. You can most likely go back if you think you skipped over the right one. But…

Walk away. This is coming from someone who's realized that I, while NOT traditional, am drawn to mates who treat me badly. It's taken a lot of musing to recognize rude and abusive behavior in others (including my own sister). Flirting with other women a lot in front of you, whether he likes you or not, is pretty rude.…

I think it all comes down to whether he's done anything specific to suggest that he might be interested in you.

Who can tell? You could meet a guy who on paper conforms perfectly and he might bore you into a coma. This guy might be too stressful to deal with in a dating situation.

Yeah, what kind of guys do you reckon go for girly girls? lol

it's only a recipe for disaster if you have a *problem* with him being non-conformist, non-"traditional", and having "unconventional" interests, which it sounds like you do. If you do end up going out, and he wants to do something "weird", is it going to be an issue? Are you going to insist that he take you to dinner…

32 is way too old to be a massive hipster. (You can have unconventional interests without being a hipster.) And supporting equality for women is a baseline.

Worked!! Leafs just scored! :) Now they only 3 more!

I think his head's a little big.

I know how you feel! But the last time I got rejected he was such an ass about it I was actually like "phew lucky escape!" and did not feel bad at all :P

Does he walk around saying he likes "androgynous" looking girls? If so, then eww. I don't care how cute that cartoon is, he's a jerk for just using that term. Otherwise if you're just assuming that, keep crushing on. Go for it, don't go for it, obsess over it for a little bit. You're 21!

Is it possible he sees you more as a younger friend? I had a friendship like this when I was 20. He was a few years older than me, and dating a 32 year old massage therapist. I had such a crush and no chance because he liked older women, his girlfriend in particular. Your crush is single, though. Try asking him out.…

He sounds like a bit of a player. I wouldn't go for him.

To get over him I would recommend staying busy with friends and other interests and by not giving yourself permission to think about him or go out of your way to talk to him. Mainly just give yourself time.

About the reification of hipsters, just look up anything about detournement, recuperation, etc. There are so many neckbeards in my "alternative" neck of the woods it's a health hazard (all the disgusting hair I mean).

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BLESS. You can still be single, and like date, though, right? I'm an old married lady, so I don't know how the kids do it nowadays. But like can't you somehow gauge his interest? Like, in life, you will be rejected a lot. Does not mean you don't deserve love, it just means that particular person sucks and isn't worth…

So. I am here to give an update about what happened last week when I fled from my emotionally abusive boyfriend. I've been posting about trying to get out of this relationship for a while but had been very very stuck do to being very very poor and very alone in a new city and not being able to afford a place of my own…