As I man I know that I produce seminal fluid when aroused. However even though the liquid is clear - I know there are still viable sperm in it. And it only take One sperm to reach it’s destination.
For the man.. Condoms - and they also prevent STD’s as well.
For the Woman - Condoms also, or the pill. Or both..

It just seems like so much work. Having to track your cycle (here’s when we can and can’t), trust your man will be able to interrupt and start all over (which has to suck). And just not being able to feel that moment when he cums in you and the trickles after (those always made me giddy). Of course I only stopped…

I'm just at a point in my life where I don't want to even try to test that out. It might work for some people, but I still wouldn't recommend it as #1

You know, I used to think this about myself too, but now that I’ve started trying (and am having a hard time of it), I learned: 1) fertility isn’t genetic and 2) there’s like 36 hours in the month when you can actually get pregnant, and that’s if everything is normal with your ovulation. I also learned that my…

no, but there are other methods I would trust WAY more

thank you, kind internet stranger :)

You’re getting a lot of shit for this, but you are right. At the very least the editors should have added a little note that it works just 73% of the time, with a link to PP: https://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/birth-control-…

I know. I cringed, too.

If I had to hazard a guess, we hear a lot more people saying “It works for me!” than people saying it doesn’t because nobody really wants to admit their kid was a mistake. (No offense intended, coming from someone who herself is a long-acknowledged mistake!)

exactly! If being pregnant would be super freaking bad, there are much more reliable forms of pregnancy prevention.

Oh my god, yes, I lost my shit over this. I’m all for women’s right to choice, but the pull-out method for many people is not a reliable choice if you want to not be pregnant.

I DO NOT recommend the pull out method for everyone, but as someone who has had an awful time with bc, it’s the best solution for me and has worked for 5 years. I think if you’re in a situation where an “accident” wouldn’t be catastrophic and pills/IUD/barriers/etc. haven’t been your friends, it’s a fine method.

I feel you. Boyfriend and I are both ambivalent on the subject as it relates to the future. But are a hard NOPE for right now.

no, I mean oral sex OR outercourse. I feel like you are nitpicking the shit out of me.

Believe me, some days are better than others - but then again, I’ve never felt that overwhelming, burning, desire to procreate. It’s always been, ‘Oh, that would be nice.’, as opposed to ‘WHY AM I NOT PREGGO YET?!’

yeah, but money. I haven’gotten pregnant yet (thank fucking god). But my requirement for even considering babies is that I need a job that requires a degree first. I like your sense of humor.

that’s rough :( but you seem to definitely be handling it well.

Specifically, I have an ‘inhospitable environment’ - our friends (jokingly) call us ‘Chandler and Monica’ because those characters (in ‘Friends’) had those same issues.

Thanks. We’re still trying to figure out what to do next - it would be a straight shot, but I’m approaching 40, and he’s 41, and we’re both ambivalent about the whole situation. (Next steps: probably IUI - intrauterine insemination.) While we agree that a wee one would be nice, neither of us want to go through…

Absolutely. The whole time I was reading this, I just wanted to be holding her hand.