A couple of things missing from your case though:

If someone invited you to the movies, and you said yes, then on the night of the movie you left them sitting in the theater and no call/no showed, would you tell them it was no big deal and insist that they shouldn’t be upset?

Also, if it’s an open bar, you generally pay per guest regardless of how much they consume. At my wedding, everyone will have to take a breathalyzer before they leave, and if they haven’t had their allotted booze, they’ll need to stick around until they do. I paid for that wine; you’re gonna DRINK IT AND LIKE IT!

Maybe the invites could include a line saying “if you need to change your RSVP at the last minute, please call/text my maid of honor at ... “ or something?

If you picture these three paragraphs as the interrupted monologue from a barfly the three times you come to the bar for refills, I think that comes as close to a zen moment as I've ever imagined.

I dated a girl with a similar name as my sister (different spelling but same pronunciation). She also had the same major in college and had played the same instrument in band. She looked nothing like my sister but it was still weird.

Counter: taking off pantyhose.

I know your heart is in the right place, but I think this is the worst thing you can do. She is going to put that in the back of her mind and then at the worst possible time she’s going to lose it with some sort of rant: “I’m the one being passive-aggressive! Well at least I have the balls to tell someone my opinion…

You are the worst. Just a really dumb and boring person.

Oh hush - he can speak without mansplaining.

He wasn’t making any claim about sexism in general. He was talking about a specific comment, and if you look at the context, he was saying this just wasn’t as bad as he thought it was going to be.

I’m not agreeing with the comment. I’m just not seeing where it is condescending, which is kind of the principle ingredient in mansplaining. And I’m not seeing where he dismisses the view of anyone. I saw where you were being dismissive of his views, but he just stated some views that disagreed with the views of other…

I think this was a case where no matter what he said, he would lose, but he also was asked point blank, so couldn’t say nothing at all either. It’s not like he was the one who decided to host all of these late night shows and it’s not like any of the men who are hosting them now would have turned down such a great…

You’re really going to claim mansplaining on that? He put it out there as his own thoughts and nothing he said was condescending. Is your point just that men shouldn’t comment here at all?

I’m sure I am going to get jumped on for this, but he’s not entirely wrong. Yeah, the way he said it kind of indicates he is being complacent as fuck and the over all point he is making is stupid and he’s wrong BUT in terms of comedy names outside of late night/talk shows, there’s something there. Tina Fey, Mindy, Amy…

I agree with you. I think Hilda is a bit close-minded when her/his mindset is called into question.

The worst is when you’re in one of the bull-session type discussions where everyone is piping up with ideas, and you, yourself, are constantly being talked over (NBD), and one of the men will STOP EVERYTHING to call you and only you out for interrupting a man (which you are usually doing because that man interrupted…

I often find myself at work asking/confirming things even though I know that I’m correct just because I don’t want to sound too assertive. I’m an engineer so I work with mostly men. I noticed it a few years ago and tried to change, but I don’t think I’ve made much progress.

I agree that I hate hearing about how awful a guy is because he wants to date a woman a certain weight or god forbid he asks a women her weight,which I will agree is a foul, but women are doing the same thing with height. Theres no difference! We all do this in one way and shouldn’t feel bad for it and be offended by…