Yeah, the one good thing about the way Franken left was that he appeared to be putting both the concerns of the Democratic Party and the #metoo movement over his own ego. And this article makes it very, very clear that his ego has come roaring back. That’s not surprising—he was a politician and a comedian; of course…

I mean, abortion should be about healthcare, but the reality of America is that it’s entirely a political issue. Being idealistic about it and ignoring that reality is certainly not going to help Planned Parenthood survive.

What’s wild is that the “Janets” episode in which she plays every other character and KILLS IT was TGP’s nominee for Best Writing, AND YET they still didn’t recognize her incredible performance!

I’m super glad that they finally got Danson the nod for The Good Place, because dude has been killing it for three seasons now.

No Supporting Actress nomination for D’Arcy Carden?? That's some bullshirt!

For using a woman’s name with reference to a man to be “belittling”, you must first agree that women, or the gender non-conforming, are somehow “less than” males. THAT is misogynistic.

Kind of like Bret Easton Ellis trying to be relevant again (if he ever was) by supporting Trump.

The fact that a gay men CAN assimilate into mainstream culture is what messes with Peck’s self-image as an outsider, which is predicated in large part on his status as a gay man. I’m not saying he’s surprised that there are gay men like Pete who maintain pretty “normal” mainstream views; I think he is frustrated that…

The thing is, I don’t have a problem, necessarily, with having these conversations about radicalism vs. assimilation within the community. Those are normal and probably healthy debates to have. But that’s an intra-community discussion, not a situation where you put someone on blast in a mainstream publication largely…

You really hit on a thing here - people would (rightly) bristle if someone said “I like Mayor Pete because he’s a tolerable gay, you barely notice it because he acts straight so it makes me comfortable” but we’re supposed to be ok with “I don’t like Mayor Pete because he’s not more overtly gay in a way I really can…

You said what I was trying to come up with.

and in 2019, we know that “gayness” doesn’t have to look like anything in particular, nor does gender. So let’s drop the stereotypes and move out of the 1980s already. 

The moment I read “as a gay man” I knew what we were in for. Being a member of a group doesn’t give you the right to speak for everyone in that group. It lends credibility to your opinions but it does not change the fact they are your opinions.

I came out as bisexual at 30 and am only starting to look at actually dating now, at the ripe old age of 33. And every time I read something like what Rich wrote here, it makes me wonder why I bothered to come out to begin with. It’s like you can’t turn a corner without being lectured by some undercut with a bad…

Yeah, like, if this were published on some drag queen’s personal blog, it would be “in group”, and I would not give two shits. But he specifically wrote it in a national publication, knowing it wouldn’t stay in group.

As a gay man who is not gay the way most stereotypes tend to portray gay individuals I’m mildly upset to understand that my quality as an individual would be judged on a scale based on how much I embody stereotypes. I guess that makes me what the writer refers to as an “assimilationist” (although I have never thought…

It is shitty, and I’m over it. The article was trash, and trying to excuse it or paper over it by gaysplaining to the rest of us that degrading “reading” is inherently part of gay culture is shitty.

Thanks for articulating this in a way I couldn’t. Super cool to be felt like an outsider all of your life in the straight world, but even cooler to enter the gay community and then be derided because you’re not the “right type of gay”.

All of this.

Well this gay man found parts of the article to be quite homophobic. Calling a gay man “Mary” in an attempt to degrade and belittle him is pretty textbook homophobia.