I used to buy into the trickster trans stereotype, somewhat, but always saw it as a necessary evil to find someone.

Aaryn, thank you for this piece and for sharing yourself with us.

I’m seeing a lot of people out here saying some pretty ignorant shit. So here are some true facts.

A transwoman isn’t under any obligation to tell you she’s trans. If you sleep with a woman, and later find out she’s trans, she hasn’t “tricked” you, any more than you’ve been “tricked” if you sleep with a woman and later find out she’s Jewish, or a Republican, or a fan of polka music.

No, trans people are not tricking you. Please see this article:

Not to mention that it’s personal. Unless there is a reason to out yourself (say the relationship is getting more serious, or you’re about to be intimate), you don’t. When I was dating people, there were lots of things I kept to myself until I got to know a person better. The biggest is that I used to be married to a…

I will start off and say this article was everything! It was so eloquent and made some valid points but there were some things that I couldn’t rock with. 1. There are men who don’t care if the chick is transgendered. They want her regardless (like the guy who married Isis from America’s Next Top Model). However, once…

“Lil Duval would be like boycotting a boycott, or stopping a parked car—it makes no sense.”

The first comment thread in this post is a bunch of anti-trans bullshit. So let me say this, fuck all of you who think that trans people are out here “tricking” you. The end.

Are there email notifications for responses to comments?

Newsflash: just because a man is gay doesn’t mean he’s attracted to every man he sees.

I don’t think you realize how even that early in the conversation, a trans woman may already be “in too deep” to not get put in a violent situation when revealing their trans identity. The realization that the woman they have been fantasizing about from across the room is trans might be enough to enrage them.

You a real one, H.

Or worse, the whole fear that someone will rape them like they often want to rape others.

Soooooo are we acting like trans women especialy of color aren’t being murdered............because that’s the current status quo.

Sooooooo do you have reciepts or.......

and he still 40 going by lil! Even bow wow attempted to growup.

Indeed.

I remember him being popular when I first started on twitter. I quickly blocked him. Ain’t got time for bullshidt.

Let me out of pending purgatory. I’m a VBS refugee.

Oh good lord! Enough men (gay and straight) look at other guy’s dicks in the shower it has a name: meat gazing.