First, that initial paragraph felt really pointed and personal, but I know you don’t know me like that so I’m over it.

I’m not really sure if they’re going to bite to be honest. Right now they’re too busy singing the praises of some white woman who covered a Beyoncé song. Because there’s nothing better than Beckoncé.

if you can’t achieve it...

I resent you for coming after those of us who watch Frasier when it originally aired and the syndicated reruns.

I mean I DID just come from a presentation on black girls and trafficking and find out black girls represent the majority of victims.

Well said, Lana, and same here. I’ve in my experience, after decades apart these same people start slowly back in with micro-aggressions that quickly become macro-aggressions, and they use the attempt at reconciliation as an opportunity for them to beat on you and try to prove they were right all along. That shirt!…

To be completely honest. I think his mother is a common example of older white women who have biracial children. Sleeping with Black men was something she “experimented” with back in the day. That resulted in two children...but ultimately, who she slept with didn’t change who she is and has always been...another white…

This is the whitest white feminism that ever white feminist.

THIS.

As the saying goes, “You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.”

I always find it suspect when a mother lets the kids leave, especially when so young.

I had a coworker who cut her parents off right after the election. She’s white, a lesbian in an interracial marriage (her wife is Latina). Her parents voted for 45. She was like “No, we will not be coming to your house for Thanksgiving, and I see no need for us to speak further.” She has 3 or 4 siblings who are like…

The expression “blood is thicker than water” originally meant that the bond between comrades is stronger than family, as in bathing in the blood of your enemies is a pretty powerful bonding experience, and it has been bastardized into meaning the exact opposite.

For real. I honestly don’t think kids owe their parents much, if anything. Why on earth would you bring a child into the world, and then vote AGAINST that child’s best interests, and still expect your child to accommodate you? Being the bigger person is great and all, but that doesn’t mean you have to sit there and…

I’ve always been REAL suspicious that anyone who tells you you’ve gotta look past stuff like this is secretly harboring some toxic shit of their own and wants the reassurance you’d look past that too.

I just don’t get it.

Unsolicited advice from someone who survived a very necessary estrangement from her own mother: beware of anyone who attempts to convince you that you should be able to look past this. I wish someone had told me 20 years ago that “blood is not thicker than safety.” Thank you and good luck.

Damnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn... that’s cold as hell. Sorry to hear that.

I get the drama with your mama thing just on a general level from hard-won personal experience. Also, you don’t have to agree on politics with your parents in general. That said, that your mom values Whiteness over her own kids and grandchildren are striking. Apparently, she doesn’t see anything in common between…

Tissue?