Absolutely. Before I got to the “Yay people laughing” part I did the “God, get me out of here” part. People who wanted to tell me things. Ugh. But a lot of drunks are like that— we’re used to being isolated and fearful and shameful. We’re full of secrets. The very last thing in the world we want to do is “open up” to…

That’s inspiring. I wish I could take time off from things to just focus on this and sort of baby myself as I wean off the booze but I’m in the middle of a damn crisis with the business I own so I’m going to have to be present to deal with that and fix it (quickly, hopefully). Sort of screwed myself into a corner…

I’ve tried AA in the past, did a few meetings. I was miserable and self-conscious and have horrid social anxiety (made so very much worse by booze, which is crazy). I do better online. Hoping after I dry out a bit that will change though.

Hey so I’m sober 10 months now. I was at the point where I was basically going to be getting divorced, lose my job, and if I’m honest, die. All of these YMMV, I’m just one person, etc. Anyway couple of things-

Fellow cat here.

Thanks. My issue is that I drink at home, so will have to adjust my routine to avoid that craving in the evening. I’ve used it to escape stress and to get myself to stop “thinking” after working all day between my shop and online biz. Now it works too well!

I wrestled with whether or not I should really quit for a long time. I had quit before, for long periods even, and then rationalized going back because ‘I can control it now’ and ‘maybe I don’t really have a problem,’ just flip-flopping back and forth. Then one day someone said something that struck me, hard, like a…

I had a habit as a young drunk woman where I would “take breaks” from drinking. They were normally a few days or a week, the longest was a month. No one ever questioned them, everyone around me understood the “I am taking a break to give me body a rest” reason. Some people also assumed I was taking a break because I…

About the paralysis around do-I-quit-or-do-I-not. You spend so much time worrying about what other people are going to think. What are they going to think of me, how is it going to look, when I’m the only one at this fancy fundraiser/wine tasting/birthday party/whatever with a seltzer instead of a glass of wine in my…

Imagine if we speculated about men’s vasectomies in this manner. ORLANDO BLOOM: THE BIG SNIP? Followed by ten photos of the actor in swim trunks standing with a vaguely bow-legged stance.

My friends played “Black and Yellow” at their wedding for the same reason.

My husband and I danced to Black or White by Michael Jackson, we’re interracial, and the guests in attendance seemed to be in on the joke, they all joined us on the dance floor.

so Orange one doesn’t really want to be a president, here is a senario: Newt is his VP, Orange one gets elected ( keep your everything crossed he is not), tells us : see Crooked Hillary couldn’t do it, because she is a weak woman, than quits and makes Newt our new president.

Yeah, fuck these people. I’m pregnant and educated. Mayo effing Clinic says up to 200 mg of caffeine. That’s a lot, BTW. I’ve repeated that line MANY TIMES during my pregnancy. It’s not like all these women get a medal for their “perfect” prenatal periods, for an all natural childbirth, or otherwise.

I’m not sure how this whole arguing thing works where you’re from, but this would have been a golden opportunity to explain why doctors actually advise that.

Today I sat in my office and listened to a coworker and additional collaborator write the request for proposal for a multi-million dollar multi-year study on pregnancy and drinking (if we’re lucky they’ll include all substance use bc the issue is really the 5x increase of babies born addicted to opioids in the past…

A friend’s wife got pregnant and loudly, frequently, told me how she had given up tea because of the caffeine. She really liked her tea, has the fancy iron pot, but she drank maybe 3 cups total a week? And yet there I would be, drinking my cup of tea (and to be fair, I’m a pot-or-more-a-day kind of lady), and she’d…

Omigod, I feel like we treat pregnant women like hydroponic life forms. Among the prohibitions I’ve heard:

I’m pregnant, as is a coworker, and she has made multiple little comments about the fact that I am still drinking coffee (a cup a day, woo!). She was even saying that she had read an article about chocolate being an antioxidant (duh) so she feels less guilty eating it while pregnant (boo, guilt) but she makes sure not…

Yes, we “can” with this line of thinking because most of the people here had moms who drank and/or smoked and/or fed us formula and/or had C-sections and guess what? WE’RE ALL HERE. “Lots of babies” didn’t die because their moms drank. Babies are sometimes born with defects as a result of drinking, but that’s rare and…