She sounds miserable because they will not accept her, and because they seem unable to conceive that she might be happier alone. Like you.

That typo has created a perfect new word

Yes, you may have the wrench.

I’m always trying to mirror what a person is saying and reframe that for the “audience.”

I fully agree, and I say this as someone who’s in love and really happy in her relationship. Whenever someone says, “I’m so glad you finally found someone,” I’m always like, “Man you never know what can happen. I just enjoy the time we have now because I never know if I’ll end up losing it.” I know what it’s like to…

The luck of the draw! So many seem to think they’re somehow entitled to a spouse, and when they don’t find one it’s unfair. Sure, I think it’s great to stay open to meeting and dating people. But I believe it’s important to make peace with singlehood because there’s a very good chance I will never encounter someone I…

But acceptance doesn’t equal happiness. You can accept a truth you wish weren’t true and be healthy and relatively content while still wishing for a different outcome.

I will never forget the sighs of relief when a crazy fucking nutcase I dated for THREE months proposed to me a few years ago. He did it in public and I was so shocked that I said yes (only to say “oops this was a HUGE MISTAKE” two weeks later) but I was so put off by my best girl friend’s reaction to it. Like instead…

And it really is the luck of the draw! People don’t like admitting it.

These are the same people who end up staying in shitty marriages for the sake of saying they’re in a couple.

Your comment is the elephant in the parlor. The way I see it, we’re born alone, we die alone. Alone is the default mode. It seems like the general pop thinks that Coupled is the default, as though something is somehow wrong if you’re alone for long periods of your life.

Yup I started dating someone and the relief in some of my well meaning friends and family was palpable. I don’t know that this man is my one. I am perfectly happy being single and not dating. The boughts of sadness in between acceptance of solitude disturb some people to thier core.

“Stingma” has to be the best portmanteau I’ve seen since the election was over. Cheers!

What is it with other people being so goddamn shitty about other people lives and their lifestyle choices? These are the same people who can’t imagine a married couple being childless by choice. Not everyone wants the same things in life but that doesn’t mean their lives are without content.