surlygyrly
surlygyrly
Aug 4
14

Well, I would say you are better-served in these sorts of conversations by presenting more questions than takes, but we all walk our own path.

To your questions. Here’s where you are struggling (I’m giving you the benefit of the doubt that it is a genuine, if baffling, one): the women weren’t being called out.
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Aug 4
30

I’ll turn your question back on you.

Is it colorism to point out colorism? Here’s a hint: is it racism to point out racism?


Jun 1
13

While I sympathize with your fear, you need to get some perspective here. All of this is happening because some of us have a target painted on their back because of the color of their skin. Every. Day. Of. Their. Lives. And that devaluation of their lives makes every aspect of it an uphill battle. They’re descendants Read more

Jun 1
6

You are being unclear on the division between protestors and rioters. You, in your original post, used the two interchangeably. Are people coming expressly to protest in your city? Or are they coming expressly to loot and riot in your city? Have you seen any actual violence in your city that wasn’t incited by police?
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Jun 1
7

In Los Angeles the cops are instigating the violence. They are running people over with cars all over the country. The cops are not here to make things better. Even in the richer areas. 

Jun 1
17

I understand you’re scared, but the fact that you are calling protesters criminals and are rooting for the police to arrest them means you’re on the wrong side of this.There’s just so much white privilege and false allyship here... I don’t even have words.

Jun 1
17

Did it ever occur to you that maybe, just maybe, that’s the exact attitude they’re fed up with and are pissed about? Like, unless they behave the way rich, white liberals prefer - over there - you’ll take your ball and go home? Read more

May 19
6

Fellow Sittenfeld devotee here. I’ve truly loved all of her output thus far. Prep is one of top 5 favorite books of all time. I’ve actually read most of American Wife twice. Read more

May 14
19

What, in all honesty, was he supposed to do though? This was 15 years ago, not exactly the friendliest of times to people who spoke up against their bosses. And Tyra Banks and that show was the “BIG F’N THING OF THE MOMENT”. Read more

Mar 11
43

She also kept reiterating that she doesn’t want her son “to change,” which is exactly like saying she doesn’t want him to grow, which seems like a strange way to parent your adult son. Read more

Mar 8
15

So you think it’s a “profound cultural sickness” for woman of color to choose plastic surgery to conform to Eurocentric beauty standards, but not for white women? Read more

Mar 8
18

I’m going to disagree here. You may be happy with your choice, but it was a choice made as a young women in a deeply misogynistic and superficial society where impossible demands are placed on women. You note this in your justification—it’s okay for your brother to have a large nose because it fits with “masculine” Read more

Feb 23
44

What does T.I. have to say about the effrontery of this man’s loud & proud renunciation of his marriage vows?! Where is Snoop’s call for the culture to rise up and ‘handle’ this so-called man for humiliating B. Smith by cheating and stealing this Sistuh’s money and giving it to some daughter of Germany?!?! I guess Koon Read more

Feb 10
72

Just because you like black pussy doesn’t mean that you love black women.