"Why are we only giving this brave woman (and not her partner) a hard time for not using more effective birth control?"
"Why are we only giving this brave woman (and not her partner) a hard time for not using more effective birth control?"
Hopefully I didn't give the impression that I thought the two were the same- I'm aware of the difference and was only intending to slight the rhythm method.
The cringe isn't about her abortion at all. It's about all the stuff before that. Her abortion is no different than any other- if you do not want to carry a pregnancy to term, you should not have to. Full stop.
You horrible original-content-reader! How do you sleep at night? ;)
In my mind, I've read that as "education and resources to reduce the likelihood of an unwanted pregnancy as much as possible".
People saying that she wasn't on birth control are using Lett's own words from the essay. Lett is a little contradictory, as she starts with "full disclosure, I hadn't been using any kind of birth control" but then says "I tracked my ovulation cycle". She does then say she didn't have long-term partners, so that's…
I am sad that there are people who didn't read the linked essay before jumping on you with "where does it say she didn't use birth control" comments.
Even Planned Parenthood points out that calendar based fertility tracking is not the best choice if you aren't in a single-partner, committed relationship. Period tracking would be at the very bottom of the list of recommendations that I would expect from a 'sex educator', were I in the same situation.
Isn't the normal stereotype that a woman WON'T be nonchalant after an abortion? So this would be the "not necessarily", as compared to common opinion.
No judgement at all here. Stories like yours are exactly why it is so frustrating and terrible that many conservative states in the US are forcing (through legislation that is supposedly there for 'women's safety') clinics to either shut down or stop offering abortion services. Making abortion less accessible doesn't…
Exactly. The rhythm method is so unreliable. Medicine, the flu, extra stress- so many things can change someone's fertile period!
If you're a bad pro-choicer, so am I.
In the essay linked in the article.
Nothing all that extreme! I had unusual hair colors (blue streaks, purple sometimes, etc.) and a small nose piercing. The "hide for an interview" part wasn't relevant for me in my last job, because I didn't start the job with any of it- I got more adventurous after I'd worked there a long time and had built a good…
Hah! Words to live by.
Serious question- what advice would you give to someone trying to decide if it's 'safe' to let your tattoos show in later interviews? Would you just ask?
I'm probably just too risk adverse- I'd worry that it would hurt my long term opportunities. Though if we're talking a "job" and not a "career", it's not really relevant. (Note, not being at ALL derogatory here, just the difference between something like when I had a level 1 help desk job and when I went into project…
(But it's a useful skill, regardless.)
I don't understand the "for a job interview" scenario. For a client meeting, sure, but job interview implies a potential employer who will see you nearly every day afterwards.
I have two corgis- we have to empty the lint filter on the dryer after every load now. I clean the couches once a week, but honestly, it's a losing battle. And twice a year, I just don't let people come over, unless they have more pets than I do. When they blow coat, it's hopeless for a few weeks.