Shall we excuse murderers because of all the people they met and didn’t even attempt to kill? Polite, respectful behavior towards one person (or even many people) does not negate impolite, disrespectful behavior towards another.

Then you should also have remembered things I left out of this story from other women who have similar stories. But thank you for reading and sharing your opinion. You have such a strong explanation of what happened to me. But what about the other woman who it happened to as well? Was she making it all up too?

I would just like to say, that in a professional capacity, you shouldn’t comment on someone’s physical appearance (whether it pleases or disgusts you). Perhaps you think her story is one-sided and unfair, but I’m just pointing out that any person’s body is off the table when you’re in a professional situation. It’s…

John — back away from the computer! Seriously, if you feel so strongly about it what’s your name? Danielle bravely used hers. In what capacity were you there? Obviously another woman there felt the same way, so it’s not beyond the possibility that this man acted inappropriately. We’ve all been there. Instead of caping…

Black Adder...always a fine choice.

If you have a genuine concern, then stop conflating sexual harassment and assault with flirting, JFC. There’s nothing thoughtful about telling women relating their stories about being subjected to groping by entitled men that they’re being too “angry” and that they should come up with a solution and tell men, as…

im not saying ban all guns.... just... hand guns and semi automatics

Look, women don’t want random ass dudes invading their personal space uninvited. What else is there to discuss? There’s no middle ground here.

When you want a reservation, do you grab a waiter’s dick? When you want a job, do you caress your prospective boss’s cheek? When you want a date, say to a woman, “Would you like to go out some time? I’d love to get to know you better.” and if she says no walk the fuck away and deal with your feelings yourself. DON’T…

And who cares if some women like it anyway?

What I read in your comments is that sense of entitlement/ privilege that cis hetero men feel they have. That makes me upset but I’m trying not to flame you.

No, men are not left in a Catch 22. Leave people alone. Men don’t “get” women, that implies ownership and that’s exactly what encourages these types of behaviors. And where are you getting this pseudo-statistic that “a lot of women love that type of attention”? Thats gross and wholly untrue.

Its in a grey area.

and of course in comments we have the responsibility for the whole thing being dumped on women yet again

As a guy, I just want to say that this is tough. I want to be clear that the guys who did this stuff was wrong, but men are left in a Catch-22. I’m sure I will be eviscerated, but here goes the reasoning.

Please stop. Do not make excuses for this. If you are what you say, you know that these men chose to be this way. People like you are responsible for this not being as stigmatized as it should be.

The thing about the behavior of both of these men, and many others who behave this way is that they were not legitimately looking to initiate the start of a relationship. They were acting out their own desires with every woman they wished without regard to the feelings or desires of the actual women. This isn’t…

I am so sorry you went through this. Ugh reading this makes me cringe.

I think calling these things “mental health issues” is an effective way to “other” the people who do shit like this instead of accepting that it could stem from dangerously common and societally reinforced thoughts and beliefs.

““very deranged individual [with] a lot of problems over a long period of time.””

But enough about the President.