I suppose that’s true, but what happens, legally, if the father names someone else as their daughter’s guardian in his own will? Or, on a more interpersonal note, if he (very reasonably) requests a copy of his wife’s will and sees that she’s named someone without his consent or input?

Right?! Sometimes I feel slightly bad about being single and then I hear people be all “I love my husband but he’s...a little racist” or “my husband’s great but he did say he’d leave me if I got fat” and I’m just like...well jesus fuck, being single is a million times better than living with that nightmare. How…

I often find fat shamers are men who can shovel whatever they want in their faces and somehow not gain weight (tall skinny folk for example)

The question as asked is how to convince your husband that your sister is healthy even if she’s fat. That’s the wrong question. Your sister is valuable whether or not she’s healthy, whether or not she’s fat. Fuck your husband, and fuck his bigotry.

Lol omg. I could never with this dude. What is the point to being married if you get married to bad people?

There’s no convincing that kind of person they are wrong. The only option is to say regardless of his opinions on fat people you expect him to treat her and everyone else with the same respect and courtesy everyone deserves, and not to make comments where your child(ren) can hear.

There is nothing stopping her from having her own will, and having the stipulation that should something happen to both of them, then her sister would become guardian.   Her husband doesn’t even need to know that she had it drawn up.

I wonder: what will happen to your husband’s self worth and world view if he’s in an accident or becomes ill, and permanently gains weight?

My ex told me something similar.

Most of the time, parents need to approach differing opinions as a meeting of valid ideas to hash out an agreement. This is not one of those times. The writer’s husband is an asshole. There’s no middle ground here. It’s one thing to encourage your kid to live a healthy and active life. Teaching her that being…

My father is openly fat-phobic. All three of his daughters either have or had disordered eating or a full blown eating disorder. His fat-phobia wasn’t the only reason, but it did make clear the one thing I should learn to ‘control’ in order to have any worth.

Yes. Yes, yes, and yes some more. And that she KNOWS this is why he has an issue with her sister means it’s been discussed — a LOT. So I wonder how her husband treats her, and how that affects the way she sees her own body. What she’s clearly saying is that her husband wouldn’t love her if she gained weight. I wonder…

Jesus Christ. Why haven’t men died off yet?

I was with you until the ‘orchestrated Diana’s murder’ part. No one did that. Diana died in a car accident because she wasn’t wearing a seatbelt, the driver was impaired, and they were travelling at excessive speeds. End.

Yeah, we got a million leaked stories from Meghan’s staff in 2018, about how difficult she was to work with, and how it was driving assistants away. And the examples for how she was “difficult” were things like: she wakes up at 5 AM, she sometimes texts her assistants as much as 6-7 times a day, she wants to write or…

I don’t see what is so undignified about repairing a gate or ironing shoelaces when that’s part of your job.

Her race was definitely part of it, but let’s not discount the “commoner” element as well. An American actress? She might as well have been a rat that found its way in. And while I hate petty dictator bosses, the timing of this little investigation is suspect enough that I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt anyway.

Pressuring people to work before their official start times is pretty bad behaviour and can rise to bullying. On the other hand, it’s also common in a lot of workplaces to send emails at all hours with zero expectation that they’ll be read or actioned outside of the normal work schedule.

The Times article read like a gothic novel, with people falling to pieces, quitting their jobs, shaking uncontrollable at the thought of facing Markle, terrified to pick up the phone, weeping all over the place... at what? A mean girl? Or did Markle chase them around with a mace she yanked off a wall, or give them a…

I have such a strong suspicion that Megan’s “bullying” was really just the difference between the way American’s talk and British people talk, in general.

Likewise, I suspect that British diffidence made it so that they never gave her a clear outline of what she did that was read as bullying to the staff, which meant…