I enthusiastically second this comment. I was going to reply with something similar, but there is no need as comeonpoppet has stated it beautifully. The only thing I would add is that you want to be careful to avoid falling into the emotional holes of resentment and contempt, because these emotions are known to be…

The one thing we agree on is that women do abuse men and that men have greater difficulty due to societal pressure, I.e. expectations of masculinity. However, “brainwashed by feminist propaganda”? You’re digging. I gave you facts. Other commenters gave you facts. There is no “propaganda”, no brainwashing for sure.…

You haven’t answered my question. Why are you doubling down when many individuals and professionals who are knowledgable have taken the time to inform you otherwise? Do you have a stake in this, i.e. are you a cop, a DV perp, a best friend of a DV perp, etc? Why is it important for you to believe what you believe?

We are aware of your “firm belief”, it’s obvious. My question is, why are you continuing to hold such a firm belief when people are telling you otherwise? We really don’t have a stake in this other than spreading the knowledge. It’s a fucked-up thing that we would all love to ignore, but we can’t.

Sigh. You make a lot of assumptions here, many of which are wrong. Let me blow your mind. Did you know that many cops are DV perps? And I am talking major city and suburban cops here. (Personal knowledge here! And I even know a female cop personally who was a DV perp!) Did you know that some entire police departments…

Also, check out Dinosaurs and Nachos’ post. It has even more information for you.

So the DV survivors in redneck lawless towns get no consideration here? Sure, some of those are rural, and does that make it any less important? And it happens in cities, too. Maybe you ought to just listen to people telling you that this happens, instead of doubling down on your limited knowledge?

I’m not sure where you live, or Mayotonilla lives for that matter, but cop response to DV runs the gamut, from cops doing absolutely nothing other than telling a couple that they need to separate for a couple of hours/the night to arrest. I think you are both correct. Source: several cop buddies, stories from my…

As a former vet tech who had a kitty that would poo all over himself and the carrier before coming to see MY BOSS (I felt terrible!), it happens all the time and it does not reflect upon you as a kitty parent at all.

You have an absolutely amazing cat! I’m totally impressed.

When we moved 7 years ago we drove 2400 miles in 3 days in a UHaul, with both cats in carriers stacked between us. When we did it again last year we flew them back. Unhappy is an understatement! (I felt so terrible)

Many of my friends and family members have kitties, and we do this amongst ourselves. It feels a little lest wasteful when your niece-cat loves the toy that you bought for your cat-son.

As a former vet tech I was totally with you until the “light swat”. Cats, or any other pet for that matter, should not be swatted.

Former vet tech here. You have a few options, actually. The important thing to do is to make it unpleasant to claw the furniture. One example of this is to place aluminum foil over the clawed areas for several weeks (kitties don’t like foil). She absolutely needs a place to scratch, though, and I strongly suggest…

I had this same exact experience!

Man, I could really skullfuck that guy. My mom got pregnant with me during her senior year of high school, and while she considered abortion and adoption she ultimately decided to have me. I actually think that she would have been better off having the abortion. Don’t get me wrong-I love life and had a pretty good…

Yes, definitely.

Well, the two Oops could have resulted from the same mistake, as it’s equally possible that there was no birth control and that there was birth control but a screw-up on the part of the mother. For instance, she could have fucked up in taking the Pill properly for a couple of days, which rendered her fertile for a…

Yes, agreed.

Yes to your amendment, but I have to admit that I was attempting to be a bit tongue-in-cheek and failed. I’ve been properly lashed for such an attempt and have since amended my behavior. :-)