Gee whiz, take a chill pill!

You had already framed the argument as larger than this one person. He is one person out of thousands, all of whom you put in a box with the “these people” comment.

It’s really not a monolithic “they,” and there is 100% nothing wrong with deciding to only have sex with your spouse, if it’s your decision. I have good friends who waited and with whom I discussed my sex life. I have others who later decided not to wait and were supported. The attitude of “fuck you for not respecting…

...but you don’t know that that’s what all of those people actually think of you.