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I hate that so many of these stories are “shitty things happened so I stopped doing X to avoid them.” Girls should be able to do their fucking bike-a-thons without creeps around! ARGH!

I’m sorry, but good for you for having boundaries.

Yeah, we don’t talk. That isn’t even the worst thing he had ever said to me as a kid, not even close. I do owe him one for catalyzing my feminist conversion though.

Third time I’ve told this story but it sadly never stops being relevant:

For some math or science or some fucking class in grade 3 we all had to weigh ourselves in the classroom and it was mortifying. Of course I weighed more than most kids, I was always one of the tallest in the class, too. And I was a pretty proportionate kid looking back. But all I (and apparently the other 8 or 9 year…

Your dad sounds like a prize. There was a guy in another thread asking how to be a good dad through this phase. I hope he reads your story.

Around 9, that’s when my folks started restricting my behavior. That the benevolent sexism issue. I couldn’t be comfortable at home without receiving a comment about “attracting attention” as if it was my responsibility to control what happens in someone elses mind. Then my boobs came in around 14 and the real gross…

I know! I remember being called fat as a really young kid and I look back at pictures of me from like 5-9 and I was a very healthy looking girl. Sure, I was tall and maybe a little older looking for my age, but I wasn’t fat. But holy fuck did I internalise that shit and have it wreak havoc on my life for ever…

I hate that so many people have had the joy of intimacy and sexual pleasure robbed from them like this.

That happened to me too! My dad used to take me everywhere with him because he was a photojournalist and often on call or doing jobs at strange hours. I know that reason that it stopped was because older men started leering at his “assistant”. So I missed out on meeting cool people and bonding with my dad, thanks…

The first time I remembered recieving some sort of weird attention that was clearly sexual in nature (even though maybe it wasn’t because the person paying attention WANTED to engage in that) was when I was at the line at the grocery store with my Dad. I was probably about 11. At this point, I was a stick with large…

The girls I knew that were beat up/harassed daily for being SLUTS hadn’t even held a guy’s hand before. They just had breasts.

It’s funny the perspective you gain as an adult. I work off of the “what not to do” handbook also. My mom worked a lot and my dad worked nights so my brother and I were basically left alone to navigate through a lot of stuff. I’ve worked through some anger at my mom over the past few years because she didn’t guide and…

Freshman year of HS, Todd. Sat at a table of complete misfits (but no regrets) at lunch. He was really really into Ben Folds and Oasis. He would print out lyrics/scores to their songs and then re-write them? I’m not sure. The other people at the table would be working on math homework, dissecting SPARK NOTES and one…

Time and distance has put a lot of it in perspective for me. My dad just flat out couldn’t handle a topic like budding sexuality or developing bodies, and my mom was working, and working through a serious depression. It’s sort of a “what not to do” handbook for any future kids.

I was 9 years old and he told me what he wanted to do to me in vivid disgusting detail in the candy aisle of the grocery store when I left my mom to get a treat for getting good grades. I started crying and ran back to my mom who nearly punched him in the face. Cops were called, nothing was done, he pretended that he…

I was one of the first girls to get breasts in school, so basically I was miserable for an 8 month period. SO MUCH BULLSHIT from guys that were like, 12 and trying to tell people that I’d had sex with them.

I was a foot taller and developed 3 to 5 years earlier than most of my female peers. I remember having this cute bikini bathing suit, my first ever. It had a sports bra like top and fairly demure bottoms, but when my boobs and but came in, I guess it showed a lot. I remember being 9 and playing in the yard with my…