I agree.

When a close friend suffered the death of her husband, one of the ways people tried to support her was through giving cash and gift cards. She was decidely weirded out by it - I mean, she definitely appreciated help of any kind, and dealing with basic needs like getting food into the house was a big challenge, but it…

Blue Apron, if you can afford $50. I got one from a relative after a similar situation and it seemed odd at first, but it was nice to have a few days where I didn’t have to think about meal planning.

In my area you can send someone a box of different brownies. Maybe thats something, at least, chocolate makes me happy.

Gift card. Old conventions say you should give flowers and that gift cards are tacky, but screw that. Flowers are useless and die, gift cards are useful. Especially if she’s low on cash it can give her a break. Sounds like she has enough to worry about

a gift card isn’t trashy, it’s thoughful and this way she can get something that she needs.

When my friend had lost her baby, still born, my partner and I went around to all the take out places near her. A variety Chinese, pizza, Thai and one more I can’t remember. We put it in a card and let her know it was for when they just didn’t have to energy to cook and we couldn’t be there to help or if they just…

I was raised by my grandparents. Lost my grandfather last year, but thankfully still have my grandmother. I think it’s tremendously gracious of you to try to reach out to your friend. Nothing will be more important than your words of support. To me (a guy, for what it’s worth) flowers weren’t very important except for…

Gotcha. That definitely makes it harder. Maybe a grocery store delivery? There’s nothing wrong with a gift card but it just feels impersonal to me. Totally up to you, though, and it depends on your relationship with her.

Please consider a glassybaby. Same price as flowers ad will give comfort whenever the recipient looks at it. Pick a name that means something. I’ve sent the one named Angel to a few friends. I chose one named Grin for myself in honor of my dead FIL. I think of him and his beautiful smile every time I see it

A gift card feels weird to me. Do you live nearby? I’d bring by some easy, premade food she doesn’t have to put too much effort into. Flowers are always nice and going to the funeral (if you can) is such a nice gesture. Take her out for lunch in a month or two- people tend to move on and forget to ask how you’re doing…

In a time of personal loss, bad financial circumstances send me into a sad spiral. If I were your friend I’d take the gift card in a heartbeat but necessity makes me okay with it, I’m not sure if it goes against mores

The full quote is even better.

Ha! She dated one of my Uncle’s brothers for a hot minute. He drove the zamboni machine at one the malls in Portland.

And what an organizer, right? Look at all the people, all over the country...and around the world, who marched. They wouldn’t have been out there if it hadn’t been for His Orangeness.

I LOVED Oksana!

Bluebell huh? Now I’m not so convinced about the pronunciation of Montague. Yeehaw!

Remember that the Women’s March also has the 10 Actions/ 100 Days if you want other ideas on how to stay involved. Today is postcards to your elected officials!

my controversial opinion is that a lot of people who did not like Hillary who are now hoping that Michelle would run for president prefer Michelle because she seems like more of traditional wife or mother than Hillary and those people aren’t totally comfortable with women as ambitious as Hillary.

Will do. Also, Democracy Now!