There’s a big difference between teenagers “cheating” in high school vs a professional, married man bringing a nursing student to the apartment while his partner recovers in the hospital from child birth. And then gaslighting the whole event.

Sounds more like you have weak morals and low conviction. It’s okay, most everyone is like you. Doesn’t make it right or good, but there’s comfort for those like you, who lack backbone, in being part of the herd so to speak.

Here’s the opinion of a person who’s been married & divorced (not due to cheating, about to marry again), & doesn’t have kids, but is old enough to be a mother to an adult offspring:

I stayed in a relationship for 3 years after being cheated on. That’s how long it took for me to realize I’d never get over his behavior. So I know from experience that you are 100% correct.

Dan has his head up his ass on ‘why people cheat’ mainly because his relationship is ‘monogamish’ and he thinks everyone should just get over the boning of other people. If it works for him, great, but Dan Savage is not the one to turn to for relationship advice when it comes to cheating. People don’t cheat because of…

Sounds like you want to cheat

As someone who is also not fond of her toxic family, I say we start a non-profit where people can go to be matched up with a new family. Sort of like Big Brothers, Big Sisters only for adults who need whole new (non-dysfunctional) families.

Oh yeah, women would totally make the same money as men if they didn’t make those silly lady-life choices! Like, maternity leave (so lazy)!

I view feminists’ embrace of porn and prostitution as an, “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” type of delusion.

Women who engage in sex work are subjugated.

Look. As a 30 something, I am baffled at the rate our morals are decaying. That’s all…but maybe I had it all wrong that there aren’t any such thing as ideals or illusion. And sex work is something towards which our daughters can aspire when they need couple of bucks. I got it now!

“Men are not monsters just because they’re paying, and the men who pay for it are beloved husbands and fathers...”

I have said nothing about sex workers not being equal or not having value as people. I have only pointed out that it is the rare woman who decides to do that sort of thing for shits and giggles when she has the choice to do other things and/or has no history of abuse of any kind. Maybe you are one of those women, and…

No. In France it’s somewhat illegal, in Spain it’s not. Guess what happen near the border ? More and more women complain of the poor piss attitude of the men treating them like shit. Why ? Because for a twenty they can have three ways with a poor womam (who had no choice). It’s damaging psychologically. They are not…

Have you read the other posts in this particular thread? Not a lot of hate here. Certainly no ‘torches and pitchforks’. We’re talking to other sex workers and learning about their lives and views, if you want to share yours, feel free. But please relax with the ‘fuck you’s, most of us are actually just here to talk.

If you can’t see there is a difference between being a long haul trucker or a professional athlete, and being a sex worker, then @justachick has proved her point, which is that she’s worried about the mental and physical health of sex workers.

You have no idea what life was like for women in this country when second wave feminists were your age. The rate of domestic violence was 70% higher than it is now. There were no sexual harassment laws. None. Zero. Nor were there any rape shield laws (and the rate of sexual violence was 80% higher than it is now).…

Not to mention if a person is looking for “connection”, whether it be physical, emotional or intellectual, how gratifying could it actually be, knowing that you paid someone to basically pretend to be interested in you?

The “beloved” part was icky.

I’m really torn about this issue. On the one hand, I have friends who have been sex workers. They have been white, middle class women who chose to get into it to make a few extra dollars, to make an income when they lost their jobs, to put themselves through school, etc. Some of them had good experiences, some of them…