i'd give it a few more weeks, go as far as i'm comfortable going physically, and then say, "i don't really want to have sex with you unless we're in a monogamous relationship. if you're not into that let me know and we can be friends." it usually takes a few makeout/etting sessions to figure out if i'm interested in…

in the meantime, keep your home well ventilated and free of dust and smoke as much as possible, and try cleaning with rubbing alchohol/vinegar/essential oils and similarly mild things rather than intense cleaners, and try not to spray perfume or air freshener around her. also keep fresh water available in a few spots…

i probably wouldn't say anything about his homelessness, but I'd definitely bring up his abusive past as long as i wasn't legally obligated to keep my mouth shut.

I wore a blazer to a retail job for three years when I was in college, so I feel really comfortable and pulled together when I wear one. It also helps that mine fits nicely and looks a little bit worn in, not old, but not like I just brought it home last week. Do you think I should still skip it or is it probably ok?…

I second this question!

i went immediately from undergrad into grad school with no break whatsoever in between. i was already kind of burnt out from my senior year, and during grad school my health went to shit, i stopped spending any time with friends or doing anything fun and my relationship with my fiance got really strained. By the time…

fuck yeah! i ran my first 10k in the fall and i loved it. you probably won't be the last, and even if you are it's not like there will be anyone following you and making a note of it, right? just do your thing!

seriously.

But marriage is still a relationship, even when it's based on money instead of love. there are day to day maintainences and it's a long term commitment. prostitution, on the other hand, is a series of brief encounters that can be cut off at any point.

i get that, but it seems to me like back then marriage was more of a property arrangement. husbands owned the wife and it didn't really matter if she wanted to have sex or not. plus it was still a relationship that needed maintainence, even if it was just the wife getting her ass kicked if she didn't fall into line.…

my fiance and i have stashes all over the apartment. i'm pretty sure we're set for the next six months or so.

i wish.

sure, but that kind of strikes me as the opposite of prostitution since i'm not getting anything out of it.

not really, since relationships are more about sharing resources and sex and one is a business transaction where one is exchanged for the other. i have sex with my fiance because i like having sex with him, not because i'm hoping he'll pay the water bill.

my local pizza place has these ceasar salads....romaine lettuce (iron!) thick slices of parmesean cheese (salt, fatty, delicious protein!), loads of croutons (carbs!) and dressing that has something in it that makes my stomach flutter with happiness. I eat at least two of them in the days leading up to my period, but…

no. no no no. i refuse to buy that. When I turned 18 I decided that they'd already fucked up my childhood and i refused to let my adulthood fall apart as well. it took a lot of work and a lot of critical analysis of damn near everything they'd taught me, but i'm happy to say i'm engaged to a wonderful man and we have…

are you kidding? ok, i haven't been to any punk shows in mosques, but i've been to plenty in churches and synagogues. fuck, i got a concussion at the first unitarian in philly watching the subhumans in '05. Churches and synagogues around here are pretty typical punk venues because of the open floor plans and excellent…

Mice for everyone!!

any others out there with auditory synesthesia? i keep trying to explain to my fiance what the world sounds like and he thinks i'm crazy.

I like you. just based on that, i think we could be friends.