it is ok to be fat. as a fat woman i've earned three degrees, travelled the world, and gotten engaged to a wonderful man. i play a sport, i have a job i love. it took me a very long time to be comfortable in my own skin, and as i turns out i didn't need to lose a pound to get there. i'm sure your journey is different…

UGH, this. I work out EVERY DAY. I balance cardio, strength, and flexibility. I track all my calories, i make sure to eat a minimum of seven servings of fruit and veggies a day. i limit junk food. i drink the god damned water. i've been doing this for a year now, and i've lost THREE FUCKING POUNDS. but apparently i'm…

my great aunt died at 98, and my clearest memory of her in those final weeks is that her nails were still perfectly manicured.

ha. good point.

this. i'm naturally a lot more outgoing and assertive than my partner. i was the first to say i liked him, i initiated our first kiss, i asked if he wanted to move in together. it was really important to me that he asked me to marry him. we've been together for seven years and he's gotten WAY more assertive and…

this has been an ongoing issue with my fiance. his ring finger is crooked and the knuckle is a lot wider than the bone, so it's hard for him to find rings that fit comfortably and look nice.

my fiance and i discussed marriage approximately 900 times before he officially proposed. we've been engaged for a year, and we still have discussions about once a week about how we want to run the house, finances, raise children, romantic expectations and so forth. it's been a really active process. all that being…

haha, i've gotten that one too. i have an amethyst and people say, "do you like purple?" i've also gotten a lot of snide comments about how big it is. people are dicks.

GOD DAMMIT I JUST WANTED A PURPLE ENGAGEMENT RING I WASN'T TRYING TO MAKE A STATEMENT!

yes. gender roles are really fluid in my relationship but i wanted him to propose.

i am not disputing that consent is critical, it is absolutely critical to any sexual encounter.

you know what's funny? working at victoria's secret from 18-20 did wonders for my body image. i've always been tall and chubby, and while i worked there i met hundreds of women of all shapes and sizes and ages and talked to them about what made them feel comfortable or sexy or pretty. i took their measurements and saw…

those are awesome.

is it? that seems like the best place for a velvet underground reference.

have you been in a long term relationship? because at this exact moment i am sitting next to my fiance in my underpants while he plays a video and i am not interested in having sex.

if they launched a consent themed line i would probably buy one of every pair. especially those "what's on your mind?" ones.

i just started trying a little bit of everything until i found something that fit.

this is one of my favorite anecdotes. i helped to build a school in haiti, and i spent a few days cutting holes in panels of plywood. locals gathered around to watch because they'd never seen a jigsaw before. when i offered to teach a local man how to do it he said, "no. that's woman's work."

i get that not everyone is big on doing major repairs themselves or building things, but i honestly can't remember how old i was when i learned how to operate a drill. it's just not a skill a lot of people value, and i don't understand that. how do these people hang things on their walls?

a lot of people just don't take that initiative. i LOVE repairing things myself, but men and women alike act like i'm crazy for not just hiring someone to do it.