Just because he ‘knows her’ doesn’t necessarily mean that he knows how she would react in this specific situation or that he’d have the ability to look beyond his own wishes and biases. I’ve known a few people who were proposed to publicly or on other ‘big days’ like graduations/awards who wish it had been done…

If I’m honest, a huge part of my aversion to potlucks is the food associated with the more traditional/midwestern style potlucks. I just don’t really care for that food- I wasn’t raised on it, I don’t really like casseroles, eggs, or deli meats, and while I love a good mayonnaisey potato salad, an entire mayonnaisey…

I like potlucks when they’re with people I know well and it’s a recurring thing: they feel casual, collaborative, and usually reflect similar tastes/expectations. I hate potlucks with coworkers or strangers, which more often than not feel forced, are poorly organized, and can have a weird competitive/unequal element.

That’s terrible planning by the host. Three people should have brought one pie each. And whoever brought rolls should have also been assigned salad.

Or you don’t know if you can eat anything because you have no idea who made it and if they really understand what vegan/gluten free/kosher/etc. means, (not to mention cross contamination because there are never enough serving utensils).

The best potlucks are when there’s a clearly communicated theme and dishes assigned by categories. You don’t want to end up with 6 desserts, nor do you want to end up with brie and crackers, enchiladas, potato salad, and panna cotta.

People who do that need to change their invites from ‘come over for dinner’ to ‘come over to cook with us’. I’m (usually) down for either, but I need to know when it’s the latter.

I think this was mostly an error in communication. I’ve been to parties where we make pizza together and they can be fun, but you should definitely know that’s what you’re getting into. And it should definitely be an intended activity and not a last-minute way to make things easier for them.

I mean, I get the good intention and I definitely appreciate the offer to bring something (and in for certain parties/circumstances I do want it!), but I view hosting as a joy not a burden. If you can’t no for an answer and let me do my full thing, you’re taking away my joy not relieving my burden.

I hate this, too! Why can’t they just believe me when I say no?!

Wow. God forbid she express confusion because that’s not a cultural norm for her.

“She would lay out a ton of food, and people always brought a dish. If you had told them not to they would have anyway.”

Thanksgiving tends to be one of the most successful potluck menus because there’s a pretty established, traditional menu so you’ll end up with a cohesive meal and it’s usually with people you know, so they’re generally aware of group likes/dislikes and expectations.

Ugh, no! Ingredients matter, not where you buy it. Some drugstore brands have the exact same as salon brands, in both good and bad formulas.

I love Wet’n’Wild Balm Stain. It has fairly opaque color, is moisturizing, has pretty good staying power, and fades pretty evenly when it does go. And it’s super cheap. I have the fourth from the left and gets lots of compliments when I wear it.

I have a hard time believing that a few seconds of tugging and pulling will do that much damages compared to 8 hours smashed on a pillow or our various expressions during the day. I mean, it won’t help, but it’s not like your face would remain pristine and unwrinkled if you never use wipes.

That is clearly a ‘let out a fart’ dance move. You crop dust those fools, Malia.

omg, I looked that up and it’s horrific.

Oh yeah, I’ve always been a picker! It has to be smooth! Anything that isn’t smooth has to go! For me, a combo of moisturizing and exfoliating really helps. Also, if there’s a flaky/scabby/non-smooth bit sometimes I go in with some very fine tweezers and precisely and gently remove anything that’s ready to go. This…

Clearly your body knows what is best.