I am a white woman. Not sure how it would be taken if I weren't, I can only know what my experiences are. Worst case scenario you're out four-ish dollars, so I'd say it's worth a shot.

I definitely go store bought, also I try to get the local flavor. New England is maple, I don't remember what I got from Memphis when I flew from there. And the best brand I can find because there's nothing worse than being trapped in a room with a rude customer for hours, and the least I can do is make sure the…

The very worst case I’ve ever had was when first class was full but the attendant was throwing candy at me like no tomorrow and wanted to get me a drink. I was stuck in a tiny seat in the back next to an over sharer. It was hard but you’re right, it’s really fun to make someone’s day even if yours isn't so good!

Burner, I pull them out of my carry on and hand them to the first flight attendant I see greeting passengers. They’ll read the note when they get a minute, I usually just smile and say “this is for you guys” and move along to my assigned seat. Everything else just happens afterward.

Every time I fly, I bring a store bought, sealed package of cookies with a local flavor ( I’m in New England, so I go for maple) and write a nice note thanking the pilots and crew for working so hard and keeping us safe in the air. If there are any first class tickets available, I usually end up getting one as a thank…