The only thing I can think of regarding that IHOP tweet is based on the name of the pancakes, Spring Fling. Like, a spring fling is not the real deal, but these pancakes are. This made more sense in my head when I first saw it and assumed it is spring break and people would be having random hook-ups. But it isn’t so I…

Yes, you’re totally right— the career sacrifice is huge and a lot of the benefit goes to the partner who continues working. He never has to leave early to deal with an emergency at school, or take a day off when they’re sick, or whatever.

I love this, and now I am wondering if the length of time it takes to be considered a native varies from place to place, and if so, where does it take the longest? I live in my hometown so I’ve never really considered this question before.

You sound like my kind of stay-at-home-mom. I have been either 100% stay-at-home or have worked part-time for the past five years (since the first kid came). Very early on I told my husband that I’m here to do childcare, not to be a maid. We did redistribute the household chores (e.g., I do all of the weekday dinner…

Right, but isn’t the U.K. currently led by a P.M. with a similar ideological leaning? It wouldn’t surprise me if May and Trump had agreed on something like this together. I don’t know, maybe I am totally off-base in my reading of May, and/or being a conspiracy-theorist?

Can we will please make a pact to not raise our sons the way many men in their fathers’ generation were raised? I’ve got two and they are going to be cooking, cleaning, and doing laundry as soon as they are old enough.

I feel like you need to start making an exit plan. This sounds abusive. I hope you can find a way for things to get better for you.

Does he realize that he can only make all that money because you’re behind him doing everything else?

No, that’s the best way to do it. You enjoy it more than you ordinarily would, too, when you see the nasty plane food that is your other option.

Oh, no, she is the author of Little Pea?! That’s why her name is familiar to me.

That is exactly what I thought of. I would love for someone to address the problems with that author’s critique of capitalist feminism as it applies to a black woman like Beyonce, seeing as how black women have been mostly ignored by both systems. And she (sorry, I can’t remember her name) definitely seems to have a…

The system of giving kids a name from each side of the family- that was in response to your hyphenated friends who aren’t sure what to do about their kids. Spanish tradition gives kids two last names, one from each side of the family, so there is a model available if they are interested in looking into it.

You’re response to my valid question about why the system is this way is to go fuck myself? Ok, then! Feeling’s mutual. Try to be a more thoughtful person.

Maybe they should look to Spain, which has been operating on this system for many generations.

Yup, how does that contradict anything I’ve said since? Even if you marry young you can be a fully formed human being with a complete identity, no? Truly confused about how you’re interpreting what I said to have an age limit or something. I never mentioned buying a house, graduating from college, or anything else.…

P.S. I got married the first time right out of college and changed my name too. Also didn’t lose my identity. My parents did the same. My older sibling did the same— but both people in the couple changed their names. I’m not hostile toward young marriages, I assume people who marry young are mature adults who are…

Learn your history. Why are women expected to change their names, but men aren’t? There’s a reason for that. You changed your name, that’s your perogative. Own what that means in our culture.

Hmmm....I don’t recall ever saying that you weren’t fully formed. I think you’re projecting some issues onto my comment. I got married young too, it didn’t work for me but I’m fully aware it works for many people (such as my parents, my sibling, and so on). My point is that by the time someone is getting married, even…

And here’s the other argument that women love to make about this: the family unit has to share one name. Meh. I kept my last name (which belongs to me as much as it belongs to any other living human being), my husband kept his, and my kids have First Name-Mom’s Last Name- Dad’s Last Name. I think it is a beautiful…

By the time you get married, you are hopefully a fully formed human being with a complete identity. All of that was created under the name you had since birth. Sure, you can take on a new name when you get married and integrate that into your identity, but why? So you can show everyone that you now belong to your…