Ask vendors every question you can think of. We even got to the point where we were asking vendors “are there any questions people typically asked that we haven’t yet?” at the end of interviews. You’re paying for them (most likely a horrifying amount) and wanting to know how everything works is totally natural. I have…

I’d say it’s not the money you need to worry about, but the sneakiness/surprise factor. If it truly is just the normal, “Oh yeah, and gratuity and the sales tax”, I wouldn’t worry too much. If suddenly corkage fees are appearing and they drop a bomb like the present and agreed upon tables are actually a separate cost,…

We are getting married in a month and we just had our first major family freak out, but it all started a few months ago and ended in a very dramatic tantrum by my future mother-in-law.

Why are people so dumb as to co-sign their relatives loans? Why didn’t her mom co-sign them. Can she sue her niece?

My aunt wanted to be invited so she could decline when we refused to pay for her hotel and airfare. She didn’t want to come, she wanted a reason to bitch about my parents and their lack of generosity towards her.

But this is also about a wedding.

Mary and Catherine sound ungrateful and entitled.

Instead, Mary advised Anne to just help pay down the student loans.

This assumes that you have a place already where everyone can congregate, tables and chairs for people to eat on and sound equipment to play an iPod on. We actually had none of those things. Please don’t tell me “anyone can use a public park” because where I live you have to get very expensive permits and use…

thanks—and definitely keep reading this here wedding blog, bc you’ll definitely continue to enjoy the content!

It’s interesting how I hear the marriage isn’t feminist thing and I think “maybe you should understand how things evolve though history and in there are a myriad of social contexts you aren’t considering... also maybe stop telling this to a FUCKING LESBIAN YOU HETERO NORMATIVE PIECE OF SHIT.”

Even if this is true, and I sort of think it is—at least the part about buying things, my wedding was still the best day of my life. I cannot explain how meaningful it was to have so many people who loved and cared about my husband and I in the same room dancing to Madonna. I had so much fun, and it was completely…

As someone who wasn’t crazy about the idea of doing a wedding-wedding but is doing it anyway, for a variety of reasons - look, we can’t always get the chill backyard paper lamp-lit commitment ceremony of our dreams, ok? I made my peace with doing a wedding-wedding because, well, my parents and extended family would be…

I have a child. I’m still 100% committed to my dogs. If they needed to be destroyed because they were psychologically damaged, I would not drop them off at a shelter. I would have the maturity and courage to hold them while they were put to sleep.

The dog was biting people. Frankly they waited too *long*. Being sued was absolutely a possibility at any time, and it’s just irresponsible to keep bringing a dog out in public that you KNOW is going to try and bite people and attack other dogs.

You’re going to have the most beautiful ice luge at your wedding someday! (ducks and hides)

“You’re going to make a HIDEOUS bride.”

I was a beautiful bride but I do think that saying that so much puts a lot of attention on women’s looks in one particular day. I much rather hear: I wish you both the best, your future husband is a wonderful guy, you are a great couple, etc. Those were the comments that I liked the most.

I can go one worse: once we were married, people started to tell us what BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN we’d have. Because, you know, I’m mixed-race, and he’s really different-looking from me...

So much yes. Early in my engagement, my mother turned to me and said, very heartfelt, “You are going to make a beautiful bride” and I almost threw up a little in my mouth. She was completely sincere, and genuinely wanted to make it clear that she was proud of, and happy for, me. I think the issue is that “You will be…