Fancy chocolate is overrated anyway. Give me Toblerone or Milka and I am good.

Her dialogue makes it clear it’s not a case of just putting more pressure on. “I *ought* to say no no no sir” “at least I’m going to say that I tried” “maybe just a half a drink more” “maybe just a cigarette more”. She then goes on about how her concerns are all about other people but she’d like to stay. And he’s…

I think it’s both. You can tell from the lyrics that she’s at the least conflicted and possibly just playing coy. But that doesn’t change the fact that, whatever her reasons, she’s saying let’s call it a night and he’s not taking no for answer. It still plays into that ‘I can tell she really wants to’ mentality where…

Except she makes if clear that she wants to stay, countering each of her own reasons for leaving with wishing she could stay longer, asking for a drink or cigarette, or planning to “say that she tried” to leave if she faces shit for choosing to stay with him.

I think what complicates things is that the norms of dating back them really are against modern sensibilities. What we call rape now back then was seen as boys will be boys. It’s was a woman’s job to say no, and a man’s job to persist. And neither of them labeled it rape, even if it was rape.

If I recall, Brown Sugar is about racism. It’s sung by a slave trader or overseer or something.

How is “a woman afraid of what society thinks eventually overcomes that fear and does what she wants” not an improvement over “a man roofies and rapes a woman who just wants to get home to her family”?

Duck! Incoming! :)

Someone on Twitter recently (I wish I could remember who) pointed out that, the way it was originally written and performed, what this song is really about is a woman who wants to buck social norms of propriety and stay with him but feels pressured to leave so she doesn’t suffer social consequences and stigma. And…

“Ur so hott Will u go out w me”

Somehow guys believe you’d possibly want to go out with them after they insulted you or something you care about. And then they insult your looks when they get shot down. So charming (not).

What an object of heated romantic interest in the real world.

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I agree. Most of the time it’s gross, but pets are a thing you need the permission of anyone you share living space with.

2015 really was a horrible year. I’m really hoping 2016 is better. I’m really hoping being 27 is better than 26 was.

It’s a tough call. When it involves my person, my spouse doesn’t “let” me do anything. But when it comes to shared things (house, kids, finances) sometimes we “let” each other do things. Like he “let” me get a cat because I “let” him replace an uninsured lost blackberry (Maria the WonderCat lasted longer than the damn…

Random question: how do you feel about people who say their significant other “let” them do something? I’ve noticed an uptick of people around me saying it lately and it makes me so deeply uncomfortable. I know not to say anything but squick! Like every time I’ve heard it it sounds like such an imbalance of power and…

Honestly – I don’t even know who she is, or what the 500 day thing is about. I don’t mean to troll.

Ditto. I absolutely hate the results of the botox in terms of emoting and how it’s changed my face, but I keep getting it because holy shit going from 20 migraines a month to 1-2 has been amazeballs.

I have to say, I have Botox done for my migraines (by my neurologist!), and it sucks. I hate not being able to make squinty faces. I hate that it actually hurts my forehead when I unconsciously attempt to furrow my brow in concentration. I think I will likely take wrinkles over this for realsies. If it didn’t stop my…