Probably.

Yeah. I try to say something nice first; if it’s my friend who’s behaving badly towards another person, I’ll say “I love you and I’m here for you, but this thing you’re doing is really shitty and you need to stop.”

True. But if the former is true, then just saying “probably” isn’t doing anything to quell her friend’s concern about what it means to be labelled a “slut.” “Yeah, they might, but that is garbage. Don’t stop sleeping with people if you enjoy it, just maybe find nicer people to sleep with” would be a more “I’m 100% on…

True. Sometimes, though, I just can’t listen to my friend talk for the billionth time about how badly this one dude is treating her, and I have to say something like “this keeps happening and is gonna keep happening if you don’t cut ties. Stop making excuses.”

Right. “They might, but if they do they’re fuckin’ hypocrites.”

Why does that make those GUYS garbage assholes, and not just the woman judging her friend on the basis of how many dudes she’s fucked?

Yeah...my answer when I’ve been asked that question is “are you enjoying yourself and being safe and honest? If so, keep going. If not, then there’s something you need to fix.”

Why do you tell guys they look like shit? Men get self-conscious too...

Yeah. I tend to err on the side of truth-telling, and I never outright *lie*, but I’ll deflect or sugar-coat if I don’t think a friend is ready for the truth. At the same time, sometimes, I don’t care how the truth will make my friend feel, bc what they are doing is so fucking damaging I can’t support it.

Irrelevant, but what does “frakkata” mean?

I bought this cheap-ass Jerome Russell blonde hair dye for Halloween and tried it tonight. The amount it took to cover my hair = amount that means gross blonde dye all over my forehead. It washes out (supposedly) after one wash, and says to go on dry hair, not wet, which means I can’t wrap it in an old t-shirt and let…

I would like it better if it said something like “We don’t pee in your nose; don’t do coke in our bathroom.”

Shhhhh, that is wayyy too logical!!

Um, that is a terribly written article that misspells the name of the leading psychiatrist on the study, which, if you actually look at, basically says that selfies can be a contributing factor for at-risk individuals, i.e. people with OCD/body-dysmoprhic disorder. Also, it was a VERY small study, and while it mean…

I LOVE taking selfies, although I have posted maybe two or three ever. I take them when I’m wearing makeup looks I like, or when I think I look bangin’ without makeup. When I feel down, I like looking at pictures I have of myself that make me think “damn I’m hot.” It makes me feel good; I think that is healthy and not…

That is sort of Millihelen’s ethos though. Their very first/introductory post is

I admire the reframing effort, but making it like, a thing to tell everyone is not the right move. And yes, some people will be very early or very late, but most of the time the “this is something the other girls are doing” is an honest thing you can say. I was on the earlyish side, beginning of 6th grade, but my mom…

Well when it comes to the self-consciousness thing, at least all the other girls in her grade will be doing it too...

Just tried it!

I don’t think there’s been any evidence of the harm of spray tans. The word “chemicals” sounds scary, but *everything* is chemicals. (Not these days. Everything has always been chemicals.)