I admire the reframing effort, but making it like, a thing to tell everyone is not the right move. And yes, some people will be very early or very late, but most of the time the “this is something the other girls are doing” is an honest thing you can say. I was on the earlyish side, beginning of 6th grade, but my mom…

Well when it comes to the self-consciousness thing, at least all the other girls in her grade will be doing it too...

Just tried it!

I don’t think there’s been any evidence of the harm of spray tans. The word “chemicals” sounds scary, but *everything* is chemicals. (Not these days. Everything has always been chemicals.)

I soak up the (actual) sun 90% for the vitamin D/anti-depressive qualities, 10% for the gorgeous tan (but I use sunscreen).

Even with the bristles touching whatever you store them in?

I have not had a good bronzer experience; to date, I feel like they just make me look kinda dirty/unwashed? I tend to stick to bb cream, blush, and highlighter, which works fine, but I like experimenting.

what if you have no idea what you did with brush guards/just don't have em?

What’s different about the nice bronzers?

“The traded milk and cheese and butter for grain and baked their own bread.”

I moved to the South at 25, and have been being “jammed” ever since.

Or made a real effort to learn about *one* of these things? No where in the world does any person/industry do all of these steps together.

I feel like there are ways of understanding that don’t require 1500 that could have been better spent and 6 months. I feel like doing all this to understand the world is akin to a rich kid spending 3 days “homeless” to understand homelessness. All it says to me is “I have a lot of time, a lot of money, and I like…

Also, childcare duties, housecare duties, and name changing (esp the first two) have significant economic impact. Changing your name (plus the other two) can have significant professional impact. Whatever reason a woman chooses one of those things, there will be a significant impact. While *unwanted* touching is a…

Ew, THAT is gross. That isn’t a gesture between equals, that is just icky.

Yes, those things have sexist origins, and on a big scale, that is important to talk about. I frankly do not understand being okay with changing your last name if you don’t have a reason to want to dissociate from your family. But I can acknowledge that and feel that way and at the same time, never look at a woman…

Eh fair. I’ll grumble to myself sometimes. Damn kids, lawn, etc.

It’s hard to put a finger on what the line is

I mean, when I’m a bad mood I don’t wanna see anyone’s PDA, but that doesn’t mean they need to accommodate me.

Yes, I agree 100% — there IS something worth being said (the first part), and then there is personal comfort. I once had a guy who was my semi-date at a party KEEP putting his hands on my back/neck/stomach and it was like, ew, too intimate — kinda killed things for me. On the other hand, last week a boy put his hand…