The Usual Suspects. I feel like I can never see it now, bc I know the ending.

What about a trip? For my college graduation, my parents (and my bff’s parents) helped us fund a cross-country road trip. They paid for our gas and a couple holiday inn stops, and we covered food and the rest of the stops where we didn’t know people. It was FANTASTIC, and I cannot imagine a better gift.

I would say, “no one knows for sure,” and then offer something assuring but not religious. Personally (I’m agnostic-ish), I think that people live on in other people; for me, as long as I tell stories and remember gestures and whatnot, the people I’ve lost aren’t totally gone.

I love my niece beyond all reason, but I don’t WANT her to have/get everything she wants in life. I want her to have everything she needs, and get many, but not all, the things she wants. Because getting every single thing you want sets you up to a) be the worst and b) have an epic meltdown when one day you can’t.

Ah, so the mom was not trying to buy them but was just a little tactless? That isn’t so bad. And who knows, she might just be a good mom w a kinda bratty kid, or her kid was having an off day? Or she totally spoiled the kid rotten. But those other two women? Do they have kids? Like, giving something to a kid to stop…

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Oh the style, *absolutely.* No one is making me change my hair. Didn’t know the words were so close in origin.

That is true on the surface, but they used a white model, and the history of white people specifically appropriating things from black people specifically while also doing lots and lots of horrible things to black people is a long one. I don’t think the INTENT of this article was bad, but it showed a serious lack of…

The way my hair looks is my culture; the “fro” part of the word is from a culture that is not mine. When I ask people who aren’t Jewish not to make certain Jew jokes, I’d like it if they listened to me. Since I’m not black, I try to listen when black people tell me what’s offensive. That dude who isn’t Jewish who…

I weirdly needed that today.

Oh, I LOVE my curls! Though it took me many many years to get there.

Hahahaha. I like you.

Ha, true. I just get very defensive of my own hair, which is very curly, and kind of stands up straight when it’s short (but omg do I love having short hair). I am fully aware that these experiences have none of the same weight that they do for black women, but I have had sooo many people touch my hair without asking,…

Oh, I like that! Thanks.

Um, all for using a term better than “Jew-fro,” but can you not refer to Jewish hair as “unkempt”? “Unkempt” sounds like “if you don’t straighten your hair, it’s wrong.”

You can be a really sweet person and still make major missteps. I mean, a lot of the blame goes to the many editors/stylists/etc involved.

Because it’s basically “instructions on how to get an afro if you’re white.”

Really-trying-not-to-be-obnoxious-question: what would you call a hairstyle that looks a great deal like an afro, not because I tried to make it that way, but because that is what my 3b/3c hair naturally does when it’s cut short-ish? I’d previously used the term “Jewfro,” (I’m Jewish) but can stop doing that/see why…

What is “leefa”?

ETA: Apparently the freckles (i.e. pigment) were added too, according to the model’s Twitter comment!!!!!!!!!!!!! HULKING OUT RIGHT NOW!!