Other people here can offer you much better insight and advice on the particular ways in which the world has hurt you and the ways in which it has not allowed you to be the person you know you are.

Good call — my dad has been taking a lot of pictures of the two of us reading; my Nell isn't very snuggly, but whenever I sit/lie anywhere to read, she comes to lie down next to me.

We got some blood work back today, and she's actually improving! The vet didn't think we needed to worry about being away, but I'm still concerned; after vacation I go back to school and my mom goes back to being out of town three days a week, so she won't get the same level of coddling she's been getting/that's been…

The clit isn't actually IN the vagina though, so for a lot of women, it takes a lot more than penetrative sex to come. And, unlike the penis, most of the clitoris isn't exposed, so for most women it takes more time/focus on the exposed part than it does for men.

If dudes wanna keep their knees 6"-1' apart, I'm all for it! I usually sit with my knees a little apart too, unless I'm wearing a dress (and can remember that I'm wearing a dress).

Wait so that makes them more comfortable, not less?

I think there are different kinds of heartbreaks; when a long relationship ends, you miss everything that was. When a new and amazing relationship ends way too suddenly, you miss everything that could have been, and for some of us, the "could have been" is just SO powerful.

Oh, wow, I totally read that backward for a minute and thought the dog had cancer. My thinking was "well, that's really inappropriate, but maybe the dog was suffering and the owner kept dragging it out and the neighbor just wanted the dog out of his misery."

Aghh, people not understanding the bill of rights = my biggest pet peeve.

I HATE it when people don't take heartbreak seriously because it doesn't fit their paradigm for heartbreak. Heartbreak is heartbreak.

Eve Sedgewick, yo.

Ah. Well when your bf *isn't* there, what does your therapist say about it? Can he tell you what he thinks of your bf's behavior?

Is this couples' therapy or one-on-one? If it's couples, find your own. If it's one-on-one, find a new one.

This isn't helpful, but reading this in comparison to where you were earlier this year is actually pretty great, seems like things are much much better.

Guys, I think we might have to put my dog down soon. I am incredibly sad about it.

Ha, that happened the first time I catsat for my roommate while she was out of town; her cat is a distinctly NON-outdoor cat and we live very close to a big road, so when I came home from a party and couldn't find her anywhere in our small apartment, I freaked the fuck out. Turned out she'd been asleep in my shirt…

I am just short, so cropped jackets and longish crop tops are just things that fit me. I like the trend.

Can that still be a thing in 2015? I love mine so so much.

Same here! But it also means the supposed-to-be-knee-length dresses I own that are actually calf-length are now fashionable, so that's cool.

I mean, I think you can meet people in normal-dating ways (okcupid?), just be super upfront (like, in your profile upfront, except maybe don't use the phrase 'fuckbuddies') about what you want. I think if you're really, really up front with women about what you want, the ones who don't want that, or who think it makes…