Well my first thought was "Ohh is he related to Jill Lepore?" who is AWESOME.

Yeah, I have no problem assuming that they didn't intend to be horribly racist. Lots of people say super racist shit without trying to be racist/thinking about how it's racist, because they have the luxury of *not having to think about racism.* But when you fuck up that badly, the proper response is "wow, that was…

Oh, yeah, we were totally dating and I was totally in denial of it for months. All my friends knew I liked him before I figured it out.

Then you could go to the annual porn conference! It's apparently super academic.

Um, I was the one who was insistent we weren't dating. I hooked up w a bunch of other people during that time period. It took me pretty much til we were both leaving to figure out I had feelings.

It's pretty unpredictable. when I was on the pill and super-depressed, I gained 20ish lbs. Once I got off the pill/on meds, I slowly lost those 20 lbs over the course of maybe 4 years. some people lose weight on anti-depressants, some gain.

just take it slow. assume when you are on meds, you can only have one drink. if that's okay, go up to 2. know that it varies a lot with what you eat. i definitely drink more than i should on my meds, but i'm generally okay, my liver is doing fine, etc. or, you could just not drink for the first couple months you're…

Eh I'm indulging in an "I hate boys and my mom spent 20 minutes criticizing one line of the first article I've published in years" beer myself.

Seek medication. In the meantime, I find writing long, angry screeds but not sending them can be helpful. Or fighting trolls online — bad habit but it can help sometimes.

I've been on and off antidepressants for six years. They can have drawbacks, but they can also be amazing. Just make you sure you talk to your doctor a lot throughout the process — some that work great for some don't for others and vice versa. Good luck!

My whole family gets along incredibly well w my brother's wife; my mom babysits their 11-month-old once a week, my sister-in-law and I go to see Hunger Games movies together, etc. We adore her, and feel really lucky for the extended family — while I was living in their city, her parents had me over for dinner a few…

:)

Thanks! Yeah, it's been a long road from where I started w guys, which was a really awful, emotionally manipulative, 7-year train wreck. Guy 2, weirdly, was actually the nicest, easiest, healthiest thing while we were living in the same city — even though we weren't technically dating, he always did what he said he…

Ah. Yeah, the second boy is a confusing one. There is a lot more background to that story. He's invited me to visit his city a few times in the last couple months and I told him I'd be there for something not involving him in May but I'd happy to see him when I'm there; I have feelings for him but I'm not gonna bend…

uh, thanks.

Confusing indeed. He was also at my house before thanksgiving, bc our moms are buds. I'm kinda hoping the first guy pulls through so I don't have to keep thinking about the second...

For the second one he was drunk too, yeah, though not quite as much as me (thus finding me a cab). And one of his friends thought we were dating so I'm pretty sure we were giving off vibes all night. And I thoroughly enjoyed the making out, and I think he actually was the one to stop it from going any farther. He is a…

Yup, I stopped eating beef after a summer of looking after a couple baby cows. They ate from my hands, and after that I just couldn't.

I am having a lot of boy-angst, involving two boys.

But the context is what matters. A little kid being naked is no big deal. Or wearing little shorts or whatever else the fuck they're wearing. A kid's looks being commodified this early, this intensely? Totally different thing.