um, maybe bc some of them want to celebrate with friends and family? no one should feel pressure to have a fancy ceremony (or get married at all), but some people actually want to do all that. and sure, they may get stressed in some of the planning, but there are tons of things that are worthwhile that are also pretty…

The opposite: if the fetus died *after* being expelled from the womb (so, once it's no longer a fetus), it's not a crime. Which really fits into how much of the US feels about babies; they have rights until the moment they're born!

That is "if it weights like a duck" logic. And actually pretty similar — a crazy, arbitrary test (involving floating!) used to kill (or imprison) women more or less for the crime of being women.

Friends of mine made a comic book that ran her story from the beginning to the middle, and his story from the other side of the book to the middle, which was the proposal. Like a happy, graphic-novel "Last 5 Years."

I loved that!

I love skater dresses, but they often make people think I'm a child (as do a lot of things; I am 26, and recently got carded...for a rated R movie).

I don't think that other animals are nearly as cognitively complex as we are, but while we tend to think of it as "humans and then all other animals," it seems pretty clear that it's humans, followed by mammals like gorillas, chimps, elephants, dolphins, followed by other mammals like dogs, horses, (I'm really just…

Yeah, but at what age do you explain suicide to a kid? Serious, troubling, non-rhetorical question to which I do not have a good answer.

When I was 8 or 9, I stood on a chair and yelled at my hebrew school principal for a while because he insisted that "animals don't have souls."

Because I feel like you'll appreciate this: I haven't lived at home in years, so I don't often see my aging dog. She's too old now to jump all over me when I visit, but now she just walks up to me, pushes her head into my chest/stomach/whatever's available, and then stands there for a while, wagging her tail but…

Why? I don't think animals have complex, mixed, emotions like we do, but what makes you think these emotions are so unique to humans? We have a lot of the same chemistry; we certainly experience stress, fear, pleasure. And if you've spent any real time with, at least, dogs or horses, you will see how they respond to…

Gorillas are much more intelligent than most other mammals, and when my first dog died, my second dog was depressed for two months. I think she knew he was dead, too; he was old and had been really sick, and she didn't *look* for him when he was gone. She just moped a lot, and got super-super attached to us — she…

When I read "red room," I thought of the room Jane Eyre went crazy in as a kid. I am guessing that it is also another thing?

They're in the same group as guys who have sex on a first date then decide they don't wanna date a girl who has sex on the first date.

I have no idea how much we know/don't know about the actual lives of Saints, but it seems that the point of the Amazon analogy was that it DOES exist as a trope; she could have noted that, but I don't think the Amazons being a popular trope rather than a historic fact detracts much from the efficacy of the metaphor.

Oh, I understand it perfectly, bc as a teenager, I would have been ALL over that. He is the type of guy that just undoes a certain type of smart girl. Smart, wry, sensitive, in need of saving, makes you pursue him, makes you feel emboldened, his self-deprecation and depressive streak hiding his narcissism.

How would you/your fiancé feel about confronting MIL? I agree that there's not much point in confronting grandma, but the MIL might be worthwhile?

I am watching it for the first time and I am addicted. Now that Jess is on the scene, I have to keep pausing to panic, bc he is my ex. Subtract the fucked up home situation, add an alcohol problem, a guitar, some cocaine, and curlier hair, and hey presto, my ex.

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Was your nephew ok??