yeeaahhh. I am ok with not making jokes like that if it offends him. But it’s not like calling a girl slutty. My excuse “porn stache should have expected those kind of remarks” is very much like what people say about girls who dress sexy, but yeah, the issue itself is not the same thing.

yeah, jeez, I had no idea I was damaging his ego so badly.

check my response to Nietzschiro

thanks, I think you’re right. I am cool with saying I fucked up, and I’ve put some thought into why what I said was fucked up. I’m not cool with the double standards (me saying it=bad, dudes saying it=good/ok), or the freezing out after I apologized. Moving on, I guess.

haha, oh man, that’s my boyfriend’s suggestion too. I was like NOOO I hate rocking the boat/conflict/fighting with people (that I know, I love fighting with dumb people on the internet).

how? how is that what I’m doing? that’s what our mutual friend said, but after discussing it, he realized that calling a woman a slut for dressing sexy is not the same thing as joking with your friend about a bad facial hair decision they made. it’s about context, familiarity, etc. not to mention his response, jesus.…

no. this stuff matters. we stay silent all the times we get marginalized and she gets attacked for bullshit, nothing will ever change. sunlight is the best disinfectant.

I think we’re supposed to be like Melania Trump, pretty, ineffectual, largely silent.

doesn’t have a point...according to you

derail to discuss porno staches!

but we’re a post-gender society! sexism isn’t to blame for everything*

I left NY for LA last summer. Don’t brag about it. Don’t even like the “which do you like more” questions, because as anyone who has spent time in both cities can tell you, they’re apples and oranges.

welp, if you had read it, you would have found that that isn’t what I said, but clearly there’s no arguing with you #BIVYgknowsbest

it doesn’t help your argument to be a jerk. and anyway, your assumptions are wrong.

your Republican donor is anecdotal, so invalid for argument’s sake. I don’t think “no one” is happy about it, it seems like the 13 mil people who voted for him and also put those elected officials into Congress are happy.

if you want some proof that HRC gets attacked on sexist grounds, you can take a look at this graph:

I, personally, am not calling them sexist, but I think some of their arguments come from sexist places. It’s insidious. it’s not a smoking gun, I wish it was, would make it easier to call out. But I dislike phrases like “cause if it’s not racism, it’s sexism” which undermine the fact that racism and sexism exist, are…

the GOP is already in line, didn’t the convention make that clear? I’m sure they’ll push back in some ways, but they’ll be thrilled their guy won.

congress is also obstructionist to Obama. they get a Republican in office, why would they obstruct him? Trump in the oval office means BAD BAD for this country, and not just for the SCOTUS. HRC has her faults LIKE EVERY DAMN OTHER POLITICIAN WHO HAS BEEN AROUND AS LONG AS SHE HAS. stop attacking her on double…

why are you assuming you know what that person is gonna do. you know nothing.