At work we have this really famous object that people come from all over the world to see. They are rabid about it.

yah i need a shield cuz i didn't come back and respond to the best of my ability

and you can't expect me not to respond to people's opinions about how i shared my opinion about how people responded to how i responded to how people responded to my feelings

okay, now i'm starting to get it, i guess i didn't have a full understanding on what specific conditions one has to meet in order to declare a GSA situation

i get what you're saying

i'm grossed out in a i am uncomfortable with a lot of the implications that i read in this article kind of way

Except for the part where you told her she was communicating 'the wrong way', whatever the fuck that means. I don't care if you hide that fact behind wussy-ass lines like "was maybe not the right tack to take". She was communicating her feelings, so if you say she was communicating wrong, then you say she was feeling…

Don't sweat it. Just work on those communication skills.

FWIW, it was very clear to me that you were not commenting on the author, but your own reaction to reading the piece and reading about her father's predatory behavior. Sorry some people have poor reading comprehension skills and rage issues.

"I would just expect that someone who is a victim could show a little empathy"

It's cool dude, I'm an Editor, we're supposed to be really fucking good at this shit. Most of us aren't but, eh, you know, nobody's perfect. Anyway, it is important to have good reading comprehension because of situations exactly like your original comment.

Thank you. I was like, Jesus Christ can everyone take a fucking deep breath.

the moment you suggested that as a victim i should have a "better" response was the moment i believed you were coming at my victimhood

holy shit

Just here to say I don't really understand why you're getting piled on, and I appreciate you sharing your perspective. There's really no "right" way to react to a piece like this, particularly if you are a victim of sexual abuse yourself. I think maybe some are reading your first post as being kind of dismissively…

Jesus guys, can you not totally mock and chastise someone who is raped by their father and has a visceral response to this story? Just be happy you have the emotional distance` not to have that response.

You seem to have been snagged by the fact that there is no tone or inflection in writing like there is in speech. That sucks. Sorry dude.

but i wasn't even trying to make any sort of statement about what she shared in the first place

Yeah... I mean, the part where he watches her be physically sick as a result of what they did together, blithely tells her she'll get over it, and then lets it happen again? No. Nonononononoo. Fuck this guy. It's unbelievable to me that there are people, nevermind people in her own family, that are prepared to heap…

Take it from an old(ish) lady who was sexually and physically abused as a kid by family; and who was in a horribly abusive relationship for five years: you are *far* more likely to live happily and come to terms with whatever has happened to you (I don't mean by that that you should or will come to forgive or feel…