I know you didn't ask me but I knew he was worth the work because he was willing to work too. If you are asking for what you need/want and your partner is not interested in or willing to try to give that to you, and I mean really try , then they are not worth the effort.

Are you mad he's watching porn or mad he's hiding it from you ? Just curious.

Me too I hate it so much.

If they are not willing to do that or want you to be a mind reader there is not much you can do. You can't do things for people if they don't tell you what they want. If I ask and don't get an answer or a "you should just know" answer I feel no obligation what so ever to do those things. It is one of the things we…

If they are not willing to do that or want you to be a mind reader there is not much you can do. You can't do things for people if they don't tell you what they want. If I ask and don't get an answer or a "you should just know" answer I feel no obligation what so ever to do those things. It is one of the things we…

With the calling thing who ever is not calling needs to ask the person who wants a call what their expectations about communication are.

We have a rule where if one of us lets the other one know they are in a mood they get left alone. We are both kind of hermity and when we're stressed or upset want to work it out in our heads by ourselves first. It helps with the lashing out a each other because of a bad day at work or other shit.

I kinda said this in my other response but what you need is a willing partner. You can't make other people change if they don't want to. Before we were married my husband and I got to a point where I was like "this isn't working we are just being mean to each other" and tried to find a way to change . In my case we…

I am much more guilty of hitting below the belt. I am mean and fight to win. My husband is a nice guy a real one not a "nice guy" I think I maybe just got lucky. My husband makes an effort to use the statements too and we've learned a lot from seeing therapists separately and together. He only big hurdle with him was…

I find using I you statements help. Like instead of saying "you never pick where we eat" or "For Christ's sake pick a fucking restaurant" you say " I feel frustrated when I ask where you want to go for dinner and you just say whatever or shrug your shoulders".

The last time I went to church with my parents the pastor was going off about all the witches in America. I wanted to ask he what exactly he meant after the service but my parents made me and mt BBF go sit in the car when we couldn't stop giggling.

Just because someone is young doesn't mean they haven't lost close friends and family.

I once had some one leave their baby in a car seat on top of a circle rack. She yelled at us from the far back corner of the store when we went to take it down.

I was a nanny when I was 20 for 4 kids. I expected that when I was watching the 3 little ones under three but when someone asked about the 10 year old it always blew me away. I worked in a fancy beach town and I think it was a way of trying to tell me young single mom shouldn't be hanging out on their beach.

I'm having a hard time figuring it out as well. I don't get how it ends up being fun.

My husband went to Baruch. He was working full time and going to school at night. Basically the only thing he did on "campus" was go to class. They do or at least did have some kind of arrangements in regards to dorms. My husband lived in some in Brooklyn his first semester. I don't remember a lot of the details he…

I know it's weird, this is my husbands alma mater and I used to work with a lot of SUNY and CUNY schools and don't remember hearing this term.

Well I guess I'll Just have to drive the 700 miles to the nearest Meijer and pick one up. Too bad they don't have any at one of the 6 toys r us's in a 20 mile radius.

Yeah my brother and I started doing our own laundry around that age. We did use the machines but they were in my parents super creepy basement and I fell down the not to code stairs more than once. I think my mom started us off just doing the towels from our bathroom so it wouldn't matter so much if we messed…

I totally threw away all my husbands almost the same socks and bought 18 pairs of that were exactly the same.