All of these problems can be avoided by discussing with your partner what's going to happen when kids come before you get married and before you're expecting. AS LONG AS BOTH PARTIES THEN ACT ACCORDINGLY AFTER THE MARRIAGE AND THE KIDS COME. I see this all the time in comments sections. Ugh. Wow, all you people who…

I'm very sex positive and comfortable with my body. I am a stripper and webcam model and sometimes sell pornography I make with my hubby. Neither of us watches porn though! We've tried it, it's not for us. He doesn't watch it alone and neither do I. We find it silly at best and gross at worst.

I actually do not like porn at all and neither does my partner. People always accuse me of lying. They also say it's impossible that my husband doesn't like porn because all men do. He MUST be hiding it from me. It's so insulting to have other people presume to know what goes on in my house and in our bedroom. I…

so you are anti-porn?

I love Andrea Dworkin's work so I know & respect your views, but I must say: I worked as an escort for three years & had a good experience, I love porn, and I really, really get tired of people basically saying the moment I make a choice they don't understand or approve of, I *must* be brainwashed & no longer have…

Probably because it was pretty unreadable. Ugh.

I'm guessing you didn't finish reading the article.

The Gaysian has got us covered! All is well.

In case no one has posted this yet and for those who need comfort:

Also, I may not agree with anything you've written ever but that is a GREAT user name you chose.

I agree with a lot of this, but I think it is necessary and wise to be just as skeptical of everything that comes from science as of everything else that comes from humans. The people doing psychology research are no more fallible than the guys doing "real science."

*shrug* Oh, well. It is what it is. I have problems with certain aspects of certain productions or things that are part of porn. But not with the idea of porn or the existence of it. For me, done right, with willing, consenting, and well paid adults performing it, it is as useful and necessary to society as…

In a free society, demonstrations are a way for people to safely but firmly express themselves.

It's amazing how many people think he's called Hemmingway...which is funny enough the name of a local tailor/alterations shop.

Have you seen/read Joy Luck Club? The character, Lena, had a husband where all expenses were split to be more "equal," but this "equality" always benefited him somehow. When they were dating, he would order a steak and she would have a salad and yet the bill was split right down the middle.

....I'm...I'm sorry that happened to you. o.o

"Well, I thought you'd have lost weight before trying to date."

I once had an "Actor" show up to a date still wearing lipstick from his job (singing carols at a christmas market...nice acting, broham) and then proceed to criticize me for wearing too much makeup. He also said "Your pictures didn't suggest you'd be fat" and I was like "I literally have a full body shot on okcupid.…

If we were going to have an actual relationship, I would have to "get rid of them".

For me, the biggest dealbreaker is if someone demonstrates their unwillingness to be generous or share. I had a really terribly relationship for 2 years that I should have noticed was wrong wrong wrong early on, but I had self esteem issues and had a hard time believing I deserved better. For all the big picture…