So how bout the size 6 and the breast size? Lemme know if you can figure out why any of that matters as regards her overall thesis which is ostensibly about sexual desire or body acceptance, and what her body has to do with anything.

That was my understanding, yes. Obviously, people can buy off-registry (or not buy at all!) and that’s fine, but the registry is for people to have an idea of what you want/need.

This is a prime example of why I stopped dating thin gays.

I think what most people are referring to this is appearance, rather than structure. if the fat pad at the base is .... significant, then a potentially non-trivial amount of the actual size could be at least visibly hidden, if not structurally inaccessible.

pretty sure liposuction of the pubic fat pad in men is a…

I think the issue is there is a difference between “having fat” and “being fat”. I have fat, I am not a fat person. Sometimes I feel fat, but overall I’m pretty average, and I’m much larger than she is. She is probably pretty average, and her saying she is fat makes someone like me who is struggling to stay at average…

“average adult woman [in the US] has a BMI of 26.5.”

This is why context is important, though. Feminists argue that it’s problematic that only conventionally attractive women get to be on TV and in movies. Others retort that of course only hot people get jobs that are obviously about looks. Feminists point out that lots of men who aren’t conventionally attractive get…

Being fat is *not* a bad thing, but as a bona fide fat person, it’s infuriating to see someone who hasn’t actually experience life as a fat person trying to appropriate my life experiences. No one’s ever told her to eat a salad, and no one’s ever driven past her while she’s jogging and called her a tub of lard. She’s…

Except that it does harm people who are really fat, because this woman doesn’t experience fat shaming, food policing, and maltreatment by medical personnel (just to name a few examples) that folks who are really fat experience. She uses the term to make herself seem special - “I’m fat and fuck SOOOOO many people!” -…

I agree - body dysmorphia is a mental health issue, and it can be absolutely devastating. But unless your cousin was being paid to talk about his lived experience as a fat person, it’s not on par with what’s happening here.

I love how she included her breast size in the measurements. I get that it’s a personal ad now. Before I was like, ‘wait, what does 34DD have to do with whether or not she’s considered fat?’ It doesn’t. It lets the men she’s fishing for know she’s thin and has huge cans. She at least understands that women need to fit…

It matters when society deems you an “other” due to your weight. That does impart a small sense of community among fat people (“we have to love us since society won’t”). When someone who isn’t really part of that self identifies as an “other”, it will rub people the wrong way. The only people calling a 5’1”/135lb…

I’ve experienced this too, and I think it’s a combo of two things: 1) These particular married guys have secured their status with fellow bros by having an observably thin wife, and now feel free to follow their attractions regardless of cultural acceptability, AND 2) The kind of dirtbags who cheat are already looking…

Because even as all people are DESERVING, perhaps, of attraction from someone they are attracted to - in this case straight cismen, I guess - no one is entitled to it:

Dude, she’s 2lb above normal. Privileged people don’t get to don the labels and then say problematic shit. IF her article didn’t lecture people into having better self-esteem, IF her article didn’t hinge self-worth on fuckability, I would consider giving her a pass. But her whole thing comes off as privileged…

Absolutely not true. I mean, I get where you’re going with this, but... nah. Believe me, as a guy who’s fucked A LOT of fat dudes, just... nah.

that dudes are lying to themselves when there is a guy who isn’t model hot with a woman we consider to be attractive on screen.

Also her definition of fat is size 6 with big tits, so don't get too excited.

Are you suggesting that penises actually lose mass as someone gains weight?

I think its less about fat shaming the men when I say I have a problem with the fat dude/hot wife scenario. I think its more that the men are "schlubby," they wear tracksuits and sweatpants and the wife is almost ALWAYS in a skintight outfit and a full face of makeup with her hair done perfectly- which is not to say…