I don't think anyone is mocking you choices in life. Letter of fact the movement spent a great deal of tome advocating the importance of that role. What was not acceptable was domestic servitude. You have a choice and share equality in your home, that was not the case for the majority of women in the 1960s. I would…

She directly stated that the above piece as an attack. This piece, which does not attack the life choice she is advocating in any way, is the attack she was responding to. Mine was not a response to her daily life anecdotes; she brought those up as support to that original claim that this article took a swipe at her…

Wait so you want us to be against the STORE CLERK in this situation? Who is probably making around minimum wage?? Yeah, it probably wasn’t the nicest thing to say out loud, but jeez, s/he probably meant it literally. It literally must be nice to have that life. It literally must be nice to be able to make that choice…

I’m seeing the fallout of being a stay at home wifey from a friend’s POV. This girl is 30, with two kids, and zero work experience after her man left her. He propped up their entire life and her prenup states she gets practically nothing (because love and partnership!) She used to say it was her choice to be a wifey…

The simple answer is that women need more degrees and experience in order to get the same positions that men often manage to get without them, or with less. And they still get paid less on average.

Hey! You described my life! Except I also own a business and work there every day, too! We all work. Having a man support us is not an edgy feminist thing. Just talk to my former homemaker friends, now divorced and spending $ they don’t have chasing after child support and custody issues

Well, I’m not going to go out of my way to praise you for enjoying your hobby of baking at home and call it a triumph of feminism. It’s like you expect someone to give you a cookie for what you’re doing, when you can clearly bake them yourself. I grew up with a mother who became a physician in India in the ‘70s, a…

Thank god you’re here! Our oppression is over! Yaaaaayyyyy!

Actually, “feminism is in fact a political movement the goal of which is the liberation of women from patriarchal oppression.”

Wait, so you don’t work, don’t take care of kids, your husband works and just gives you money to do whatever you want? I hate you too. Not because you chose to bake bread, but because I don’t have the luxury of not working. I work full time to make ends meet, and still have to do all the household work when I get home…

Now who’s being “judgey”? “All those other MEAN women hate you because they’re POOR and can’t do what YOU do! Because everybody knows, if they COULD ‘stay home,’ they would. No woman REALLY wants to work for pay!”

That option rests on the thinnest tissue of social change. It can be taken away in a very short time, and there are many in national leadership who would love to turn back the clock, given the power to do so. The gains by the feminist movement are fragile.

Who’s “mocking”? Everything is not about you. I’m 54, and I STILL remember the three occupations available to women: teacher, nurse, secretary. All before you got married and had kids, of course. Then it was homemaker or homemaker. If you stayed employed, you were punished in numerous ways. My mother went back to work…

I get snarky sometimes because I feel like there’s tons of other things you can do with your life besides stay at home and be the good little woman (usually only thought when I’m feeling particularly smartassy). And it makes me wonder if you chose this life because it’s what you really want, or because it’s been…

Well, mostly the “must be nice” one is because you’re pretty much stating “so, yeah, my husband and I are pretty rich.”

You have that choice because of these women who rebelled against it. They opened doors and (some) minds. The choices they had were very limited, divorce and independence was a frightening concept. A lot of women dealt with a lot of AWFUL shit for you to be able to say you can be a feminist and be domestic. Choice is…

FFS. Someone else, choosing to do something else, advocating for the option to do something else is not “bitchy”. It’s also not a judgement on you; stop it. Not everything is positioned as commentary on your lifestyle.

I think that for some people, it may not even be a feminist issue. Being able to survive on just one income is pretty rare anymore. I read what you wrote about the financial choices you and your husband have made to make this choice work for the two of you, and that’s great that it works for you both. I just think…

Do you think using a gendered slur like “bitchy” to describe women who you feel don’t give you enough support for your life choices is helping your case?

I’m a married engineer. There have been times that I’ve taken extended periods of time off of work by choice. No one has directed this kind of judgement towards me, at least that I’ve noticed, cough, cough. Maybe it’s the wording I use, or maybe I’m lucky. You’re making me think about how I phrase it. I tend to say…