I'm just speaking from personal experience here, but if you can't tell if there's a spark or if you're attracted, then you're not. I had many of those before I met my husband who was all "spark" from day one. Everyone is different, though. I hope it works out for the best for you!

if you're in New York, check out Sleep No More. It's by a company called punchdrunk and ohmigod I've never seen anything like their london show The Drowned Man.

Pepsi drinkers are terrible people with terrible tastes.

*raises hand* I'll admit to a polite curiosity as to who Felicia is.

Do y'all ever feel like there's this extra-special type of hatred for fat women that only a fat man can pull off? I'm not sure if it's my perception or reality but I feel like there's a certain type of fat man who takes his insecurity about his weight out on fat women. Like, "Yeah, I may be fat, but at least I'm not…

Um...I don't have a recommendation for both. :-/

I feel compelled to add my own best story from my time as a server.

Celebrity Edition!

Do you want to read it for reading pleasure, or for erotic pleasure?

This might do the trick: http://www.amazon.com/Kushiels-Dart-…

Abigale Barnette's 'The Boss' series.

if you dont mind manga id recommend Nana to Kaoru. its a monthly series (still ongoing) about a a high school guy obsessed with s&m and his neighbour who gets into it as a form of stress relief. http://mangafox.me/manga/nana_to_…

Oooooooooh! I love Cara McKenna's books as well as Delphine Dryden's The Science of Temptation Series. Both authors are good writers and portray healthy BDSM relationships. I'd also recommend checking out the blog Smart Bitches, Trashy Books; they have great reviews or romance/erotica books and the commenters often…

The Boss by Abigail Barnette is awsome!

If you're up to menage (three-way relationship) texts, I highly recommend MQ Barber's Neighborly Affection series. It's more heavy on the dom/sub atmosphere than straight-up BDSM, but the characters are likeable and interesting, there's plenty of porn, and the writing is pretty good.

Check out "The Boss" by Abigail Barnette! It's super fucking sexy, well written, and isn't a manual for an abusive relationship. Yay!

You might want to try reading the comic Sunstone by Stjepan Šejić. It's a portrayal of a healthy BDSM relationship.

Fanfic. Google 'archive of our own' and go to town.

Tiffany Reiz is a great one hand read *badoom tish*

OOh poor little married president. Did your mistress have a boyfriend? Fits is the worst. Of all the assholes on this show- Fitz is the worst.