I appreciate that you’ve given this thought. However, I’d argue that Atwood’s phrasing wasn’t clumsy at all; it was spot-on. This about fear and the roots of that fear. Women are afraid that men will kill them because disproportionately, _women are killed by men_. The equivalent would be saying something like, “men…

Honestly - this fear is such a regular occurrence in my day-to-day life that I don’t even mention it to my husband most of the time. But I still feel it. I know it’s not rational, I know it’s usually unlikely to result in my death or injury, but I don’t know if this is the time I am wrong and it is a rational fear.

I’m a dude, but I’m also not so overly-defensive that I think that meme is referring to me in any way. It’s stating the simple fact that women have always had more to fear from rejecting men than vice verse, not that that result is ALWAYS going to happen.

seems to imply that all men are capable of killing a woman in the event of rejection.

And will it never cease to be the truth that men will inevitably post on the comment section a version of #whataboutthemenz ?

Well, they’ve tried curbing date rape through ads saying “Hey bros, keep an eye on your bro, JUST IN CASE he’s a creeper”. But then people like yourself come out of the woodwork screaming about “WOW NOT EVERY MAN IS A DATE RAPIST WHY DO YOU HATE MEN?!?!?!”.

Just adding, I have been stalked, chased down in a car (and I was with my mom!!), I have been felt up at bars, parties, pools, etc... I have had to protect my sister from an abusive boyfriend.

Holy fuck, the mental gymnastics you have to go through to make this about you are amazing. It’s like looking at a schizophrenic’s journal.

We’ve done such a fucked up job of pushing men to believe that they deserve only the hottest girl and that they should be thankful that someone’s paying attention to them. I think we’re just starting to realize how badly we’ve ingrained it in people and trying to make changes but I don’t think we’re ever going to see…

No, the point of the quotation is the worst case scenario for each gender. When first dating someone not otherwise connected to a friend/work/school, a lot of women tell their friends where they’re going and with whom just in case they disappear. I don’t know of any guys to whom this has occurred as a problem.

Here’s a REALLY simple rule of thumb.

#notallmen, right dude?

“have you honestly been afraid of your life when rejecting a man?”

Shut the fuck up and stop being deliberately contrarian in the face of other peoples lived experiences.

I can’t speak for all of them, but my cousin (who is an avowed gun nut) said he hopes all ‘mentally ill’ people get guns and kill themselves because they’re weak and should die.

Silly woman. What he did was wrong, but maybe she shouldn’t have been such a bitch. Now this young man life is ruined. You know, a real tragedy.

Unless she is unborn cells...

Republicans would say she had every chance to buy her own gun and because she didn’t it’s her fault he killed her. What was she thinking, telling a guy she didn’t want to date and forgetting to arm herself?

Yeah this is a three-part disaster: socially conditioned male entitlement, no real system for adequately treating our mentally ill citizens, and far too lax gun laws.

A former girlfriend told the Wisconsin State Journal that O’Kroley had tried to commit suicide in 2014, and that he has been seriously mentally ill for the past decade.