Thank you. I am actually in therapy already for my own mental health, and only recently started talking to her about my relationship. I tend to gloss over it and feel embarrassed, hence it being only the secondary issue in my post here. But the therapy is the main reason I'm even able to recognize it as abusive.

I love you in this post! I never have it in me to have this debate. It's always the patronizing "oh you naive third wavers." I've been watching porn for a long time and never found it empowering, aside from maybe a few sites/videos created by women. I look at it when I feel like it, not to be a better feminist. Even…

You're right, it shouldn't matter, because either way, a person was raped and it's appalling. It might be helpful to note, though, because people still need to be aware that boys and men can be raped and abused, and women can be perpetrators. I don't have much faith that these discussions can happen without victim…

I'm so, so sorry. One of my best friends was killed by a speeding drunk driver, and all stories about dangerous drivers feel brutal. I can't pass judgment on Bruce at this point, but it still hurts to read. I can't imagine what it's like if it's your mother. Every time I hear a story like yours I redouble my efforts…

I've never been really into any of the 45 Chrises, but that one Chris looks pretty cute in that one picture. Can some of them change the spelling slightly to make it distinctive? Chriss Pratt, Khris Evans, Cris Pine, Thor Hemsworth?

Florida has the Golden Girls though, and that redeems it a little. I have no room to talk, I live in the land of corruption and baseball curses and public shaming over hot dog topping choices.

It's probably best to be given less - just not to the point where you have to get refills so often that it becomes its own source of anxiety. I had two psychs who were very generous with Klonopin, no questions asked, 30-90 day + refills for 5 years. They trusted me because I had no history of abuse and it seems like…

Has anyone you care about ever done something shitty, and they were beating themselves up over it, and you thought/told them something like "it sucks that you did it, but it doesn't make you a horrible person, try to forgive yourself as long as you recognize it was wrong and move on"? Try to have that kind of…

I don't know how to tell anyone in real life that I'm bi. I'm 30 years old and I can't even bring myself to say it to anyone. I'm afraid my decently progressive parents will react differently when it's their own daughter, and my extended family is traditional "old country" Greek. The last time I told a boyfriend, he…

Aww, she's a sad looking cutie. I hope the Benadryl makes her feel all chill at least like it does to me.

I don't know you but I am happy for you! Actually I think I've starred your comments before, so congrats on being followed. I'm new so I plan on being grey as Fifty Shades for a long time. Anyway, I'm super cynical and tend to drown in woe-is-me and feeling bad for others, so I like to read about someone's happiness.…

From another recent poster type person in a similarly difficult long-term relationship...I feel you. :( I would feel too hypocritical giving you a lot of advice because it's not like I'm doing well with my own situation, but I'm really glad you have a good individual therapist. At the VERY LEAST it's great for…

"Protecting someone who appears in public from being the object of sexual thoughts seems to be the sort of 'paternalistic interest in regulating the defendants mind' the First Amendment was designed to guard against."

Thank you for educating yourself. Seriously. I let out a shaky sigh of relief reading the second half of your comment, and realized I usually clench my teeth attempting to read these threads. The more I read things like this, the more I'm relieved I never reported anything that happened to me. Probably not the best…

YES and sometimes I look at the comment history of people using that logic because I hate myself or something and 70% of their posts are sports arguments, and I get it because baseball is a Huge Deal to me, but ARE SPORTS ARGUMENTS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING REALLY???

I dated a guy who would do a double take to the point of whiplash and say "Who IS that FEMALE?" every time a hot woman was on tv or walked by. He and his best friend also used it in place of bitch and it made me cringe. This was in 2006 and I was 22 and barely identified as a feminist until he defined me as an angry…

I adore you for this comment and I'm laughing so hard right now. You are much stronger than I would be in the face of the army of defensive Redditors who resemble this remark. My usual train of thought when I hear "females:" my ex->fedorasPUAsMRAs->Reddit.

Thank you, I tried hard to convince myself of that for years. Was finally referred to a dietitian who diagnosed me with ED-NOS and I realized just how PROUD I was of myself for eating 0-1 meals per day most of the time. And what a thrill I got that I "just wasn't hungry" so it "wasn't a big deal anyway." It still…

I completely get what you're saying and I wish I could give you 1000 stars for this whole thread. No matter how calmly, quietly and rationally we try to assert ourselves, certain people are going to see it as "screechy" and "man-hating" and OMG Y U SO ALIENATING, so why try so hard to please everyone? Feminism, like…

:/ :/ :/ This comment is why everyone hates women liberals tho, we need to be the bigger person and use RATIONALITY and REASONING like Rand Paul and the Libertarian Party have shown us...................